So I told my boyfriend that its ok if he wants to fuck other girls sometimes simply because I don't want him to feel too tied down to the relationship, its fine and stuff but when he comes and tells me about it I can't help but get a little upset, am I being super jealous or what?
Most Helpful Guy
You and your boyfriend have to take the time to establish the boundaries of the relationship, especially because being in an open relationship isn't exactly conventional. I wouldn't really call it being jealous because most jealous people aren't willing to let their partner sleep around.
Honestly I don't think you are -really- ok with your boyfriend fucking other women, and you probably should disallow that in your relationship going forward. You have to do what is right for YOU, and obviously you don't feel comfortable with this.
Question, is he allowing you to sleep around with other men?0
Most Helpful Girl
it depends~ consensual nonmonogamy (whether polyamorous or "open" relationships) can only work if both of you are into it, and you're obviously not into it.
a lot of people who are consensually nonmonogamous have relationship rules~ for example, some are okay with their primary partner seeing other people, but they have an agreement not to talk about it afterward. but have you told him how you feel?
he only keeps doing it because you keep allowing it. so you need to 1) end the relationship, or 2) tell him you're not okay with it and take it from there.2