I've never had a boyfriend and I really want to start dating, I feel sad seeing all these happy couples everywhere while I'm alone. I don't mind being alone since I love myself but I want to share my love with others and it seems like people won't accept it. I got asked out a few times in high school but I wasn't ready to date so I turned them down. Guys never approach me, they just stare a lot and this kind of bothers me because its intimidating to approach someone who's just full on staring you down. Otherwise, I feel like I could approach guys and talk to them, but I wish they would just approach me instead of stare at me and make me uncomfortable. All the guy friends I've had always end up wanting to have sex with me, but why not date me? Is there something wrong with my personality? I am a bit introverted but I am always respectful and friendly towards people. I smile, I let them speak and I ask questions instead of making it all about me. Sometimes I may start to ramble, but I try my best. If it gets to something I have a passion for or strong opinion towards it can get a little intense. I am always honest and true to myself. I will never talk behind someone's back and will never spill secrets. One thing that isn't too great about me is my sense of humor. Some people say I'm funny but it's more like weird or geeky humor. I've learned to be able to laugh at myself and not be as sensitive about things. Why do I feel like men treat me as just a sexual object? I feel like they just like me for my looks but pay no mind to my personality. I know my style limits my choices (alternative) since a lot of men don't like it, but I know plenty of people that do like it. I am just looking for someone to share my love with.
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I am somewhat in the same exact situation that you're describing. The truth of the matter is I don't know why we view ourselves as undateable. It could be because of various reasons.
We may appear bland, we may appear menacing, we may appear uninterested, we may appear uninteresting. It's hard to tell.
What I will say is, it is not okay to be viewed as a sex object and I would suggest not giving into it either, as you're just setting yourself up for a lot of hurt. I know this first hand. Just don't give into it.
It's not easy to approach anyone anymore, in my opinion. Being introverted doesn't help either. The best you can do is try, which is way way easier said than done.1