Ok so there's this guy and we've hung out a few times. The third time or something he wanted to kiss me but I said I wasn't sure I should because I knew the girl he used to date and at the time I wasn't sure that I liked him in that way.
Move ahead a bit, we talked about the whole ex-girlfriend thing and I said that I didn't care because i wasn't very close with her but that I didn't want just like a friends with benefits or hookup kind of thing. (This was all over text)
Then last night we hung out again and we did start kissing but then I starting to worry that he only wanted a friends with benefits kinda thing or only liked me in that way while I was started to like him as more than that, so we stopped.
Looking back though I kinda regret it- like I don't think he was forcing any thing on me or necessarily treating me like a just a hookup. (like if I moved his hand away then he respected that) and I don't know but I feel like he might like me- not just want a hookup.
But I feel like I've messed anything with him up, turning things down with him twice, I don't know.
What should I do, I really wanna fix it?
Most Helpful Guy
He may feel discouraged since you've turned him down. If I were you, and this is something that you seriously would like to pursue, I would be straight forward with him. You know all of that stuff about how guys can't take hints? It's mostly true, especially when we've been turned down. Be honest with him. Tell him about how you feel and that you'd like to try. It sounds like you would like to take things slow, and you mentioned that he respected that notion, so tell him that. Make it clear that you don't want this be a hookup.2
Most Helpful Girl
If you had to turn him down twice, its a sign that says it wasn't meant to be. I believe you did the right thing and that he was rushing into something you was not prepared for. I know you feel guilty now, but you would have been worse off if you had accepted it. You weren't ready for a relationship and you weren't sure if you were ready with him. If you two would have went further over lust and feelings you two would have regretted it. He sounds like he's only interested in sex and nothing too serious. He was prepared to do so from the get go, and that was a sign of no-no. Once again, don't feel too bad. You did the wise thing. Plus you barely know him! Not a good idea. That's not even what you call a friend. That is a poor suitor.0