I met this guy on a online dating app and we talked and stuff and decided to meet in perosn and well we liked each other and he eventually asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes and it's been a week since its been official now. The thing is I checked on his fb details and it says that his religion is Islam but on this profile on the dating app it said "non religious" and the thing is I'm Catholic. So I don't know if this will workout because those 2 have both really big differences and there's a lot of differences when it comes to holidays too. So I just don't know what to do. What should I do? And do you think it'll workout or not? (Other than religion being different I do like him)
Most Helpful Guy
I would not date someone who had a different religion. I'm not religions, and I wouldn't date a religious woman.
Will it work out? That depends on what you mean by "work out". If you mean "Do you think we could have a happy marriage" the answer is a strong maybe. Most atheists come to the position after a lot of thought. We're not atheist because we were raised that way. We considered the tenets of religion (usually Christianity in the US) and rejected them. We are pretty sure they are not true. Can you live with someone who finds your religion simply unbelievable? Can he live with someone who believes something he finds impossible?
Also, if you want children you need to think about your expectations for the children's religious education. Is it important to you that the children be raised Catholic? Or could you compromise and join a Unitarian congregation? If you are looking for a husband and father, then there's a lot to be discussed.1
Most Helpful Girl
I think it all depends on how religious you think you are. It's tough because as we mature and experience more about the world, our religious views and how religious we are can change. If religion is already a big part in your life, I would suggest being very cautious because that can cause a lot of tension down the road; as you said with the holidays, but also what religion would you raise your kids, if you ever had kids together? And your life philosophies in general could turn out to be at war with each other from being raised with two very different backgrounds. I think it's not a very cut and dried answer and that you should really think carefully as to whether or not you are compatible. If he is really okay with going along with your religious traditions and values, then you might work out. Also, if you would be okay with accepting his religion and him accepting yours, then maybe you can both just learn about the other. I think there are a lot of factors that go into making a decision like this, but at the end of the day I think you should do what you feel is right and really just follow your heart.1