What are things you look out for before trusting a new girl/guy you're dating? When do you know its okay to let your guard down? What are red flags for you? Are there any behaviors that make you want to run away in the opposite direction? What makes you feel comfortable sharing your intimate thoughts and self when dating someone new?
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When it comes to intimate thoughts and vulnerabilities, it's just a matter of increments. I'll get to know her and try not to get dangerously invested for as long as possible. Big game changers are when she expresses very specific attitudes or ideas that I also hold, without questioning her about it, and also when she accepts me in a really vulnerable moment. It's a big deal when I'm convinced that she actually wants to take care of me and make things ok, but not feel entitled to time or resources from me later.
When she is genuinely interested and cares about how I feel, is totally accepting and unfazed if I feel bad, and wants to make me feel good and help me with whatever not because of any other reason than she cares.
I don't think I hit the nail on the head, but meh.1