There's this girl I really really like. She is mature, she doesn't play games, and she is really good to me. She is everything that I cold hope and dream of in a girl, but the only thing she doesn't have is physical attractiveness. My question is should physical attractiveness prevent you from falling in love with and dating someone? I'm torn cause I feel it shouldn't matter and I'm pretty sure I like her enough I can look past it. But trouble is the guys I'm hanging out with are judging me over it and talking about it.
I know I shouldn't care but it bothers me. I'm an attractive guy and she is certainly dating out of her league. But I can't deny she has an extremely attractive personality and is a good person to have in my life. I also don't want to spend their rest of my life searching for the perfect person that I'm never gonna find. And most physically attractive females I've dated in the past have treated me horribly, honestly. So, what would you do?
Most Helpful Girl
Personally, I would not pursue a romantic experience with someone that my level of attraction can only reach a limited level with. Sooner or later, someone would come along who does excite me with their attractiveness and I know that would really hurt my partner. I need a certain type of magic to happen during intimacy and if all bases of attraction aren't covered then it won't.
I'd recommend that you end things now because what will happen is that you will end up being attracted to another woman eventually and it may lead you to cheat or tempt you to emotionally cheat at least. It's not fair to either of you for you to not feel satisfied completely and for her to not be valued in entirety. She deserves to be treasured for her physical appearance and you deserve to experience a romantic bond that is not void of any form of attraction. Cut this off and end it now.
Also, stop giving a fuck what your friends think. It's not their journey they have to live with so tell them to mind their own business next time they give you shit over something like that.1
Most Helpful Guy
I honestly don't give rat's ass about this. This 'physical attraction' thing has been blown way out of proportion as a way for 'shallow people' to not admit being shallow.
If I like her personality and nature, and feel compatible with her, I'm gonna try to get into a relationship with her. It's as simple as that. Looks fade with age, personality doesn't (unless the person chooses to).1