Hello all. I started seeing this guy (he's 24, I'm 30) and things were going great. I really liked him, so I wanted to take things super slow and potentially ease into a relationship. Finally, about a month and a half into dating, I agreed to be mutually exclusive with him- and was happy to do so.
About a week later, he calls me with news that he has to move back to his home city (about 2 hours away) for his job- which, I found completely understandable and was willing to work with. We put off having the "what will become of 'us'" talk until I decided I wanted clarity. After much discussion and weighing of pro's and con's we decided that we were going to give this hell and try our hardest to make it work, as we both like each other very much, and don't want to abandon what is and could potentially be a great thing. Before he leaves, we agree to be "in a relationship" on fb with each other- silly, I know.
So, he moves all of his stuff back home and we talk off and on amongst the week he has taken off to move. He seemed a little distant, but still managed to text a bit each day- and even called me later in the week, as he felt like he was neglecting us and honestly missed hearing my voice. I told him, it was all good, I understood he was busy, and he didn't need to call- yet, he reassured me that he really wanted to hear my voice. After that we spoke off and on into the weekend, when I knew he had a big event with his friends- so I wanted him to have fun and left him alone. I went over to my best friends house, where her 3 yo daughter took a photo of herself, her husband and myself- which I posted to instagram, thinking it was cute.
Since I posted that picture, I have not heard a word from him. I texted him good morning, that next morning and figured he was hungover when I didn't hear from him that night. Before bed, I wished him good luck on his first day the next day, and didn't hear anything. It has been almost 5 days, with 0 communication. What should I do?
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Don't Send any more Messages, @LizbelsABella, Nor Anymore... Pictures of Any sort, even if it is Just on his Cell. Let him Contact you with Whatever Lame Duck Excuse he Might have.
It appears he Has Had a Change of Heart, with Having gone with his Buds to this 'Big Event,' and with perhaps Having a 'Hangover,' he has Thought it More Clearly Over and has Possibly Decided... He doesn't like to Hear your Voice as Much as you think Anymore. He seems to be in his own World with his own Life and May not Have the Goalies to tell you, which is Most Disrespectful to you.
LDR, although this One is a Stone's Throw, is One of the Hardest to Have and to Uphold of any. If Only One person is Making the Effort and the Other is a Party Pooper on his own End, this can Go and Grow Real quick where the other Party is Drowning His or Her Sorrows in the End.
Good luck. xx0
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