For the last year every couple weeks I notice that $20-$50 goes missing from my wallet. Finances are tight for me right now so this is money that could go for transport, food, etc. I ask my boyfriend if he's borrowed it and he denies and asks if I miscounted or got it stolen. I have miscounted before so I always second guess myself even though I've been more careful lately to always know how much I have. I love my boyfriend and he does pay for some things in the relationship but I can't have an unapologetic thief. I don't want to confront him if it's not him but I'm to the point where I lie about how much I have and am considering hiding my money to try to save it. My boyfriend likes to spend the money he makes fast so him being short is not new. any advice?
Most Helpful Guy
Dump him even if he didn't steal because this:
" My boyfriend likes to spend the money he makes fast so him being short is not new. "
is all you need to know that, as long as you stay with him, you will have problems.
Move on and find a fiscally responsible guy.1
Most Helpful Girl
Girl ! Get out of that boys life ASAP! My hobby is studying body language. It can be very helpful in Time of need. but also I study speech and hidden messages. so basically. If you ask someone a question such as " are you stealing my money?" And they give you a straight answer, (yes or no, no words following) they are being truthful but if the conversation end up feeling tense after you ask the question and his face starts to move around a lot and he starts "turning things around" on you. then you are talking to a lair. For example like you said
"Have you borrowed any money from me? "
I assume his answer was like this,
"No, why would you ask me that? Did you go to a party and put your bag down some where , did you spend money and just forget?"
See this is what the lair is doing, for one , they are moving the spotlight to everyone but them , secondly they are acting as if they want to help you. (obviously they aren't if they are lying to you. But there's a rule to lie detecting. Know your subject well, because people all have habits a d ways of doing things and that can make reading body language and speech very difficult.0