I've met several women that I thought I got on well with while messaging/texting, but it fizzled out after the first date. I just went on a first date after two weeks of talking to someone (she was busy last weekend, and we're an hour apart). My gut feeling is that it will be another fizzled attempt, because she never really asked me anything or started any deep conversations over text messages, and I had to initiate the conversation every time today in person. We have a lot in common, so it's frustrating...
The only relationship I've had (2.5 years) started with 6 months of texting, phone calls, and Skype because we were 1000 miles apart. We literally fell in love with each other before having our first actual "date."
The woman I met today is shy, so it's possible that this contributes to her letting me lead the conversations and questions, but I don't know... How can I read this?
Most Helpful Girl
I'm a shy girl and I don't really speak much on my first date.
and sometimes I can't even look into my date's eyes.
and if my date texts me every day or every other day, I just let him initiate the contact.
If I liked the guy, I text him back and keep the conversation going.
If I didn't like the guy, either I ghost off or reply him here and there but it will be short one word answer.
ask her out again. Then you will get the crystal clear answer haha
if she didn't enjoy the first date, she won't be seeing you for the second.0
Most Helpful Guy
It's not so much what happens during the first date, but what happens after the first date.
I mean yes having a good first date is important, but I've had a variety of dates. Some where there's no kissing as well as ones where I've made out and went back to the girls place but still haven't heard back afterwards or they flake when I ask them out for a 2nd.
Actions speak louder than words as they say, so you gotta see how they act afterwards. Each person is different.2