I'm 16 now but this is literally all my life so far (since 1st grade). Does this mean I'm loser? Why am I always rejected? :/ are couples in a secret society and only certain people can get in? How do people even date? How does that work. Its impossible.
Most Helpful Guy
Up to now it doesn't really count. And really, you got a few more years before it even start to make sense.
First thing is they aren't rejecting YOU, they're rejecting their concept of what you are to them. At this age the boys are absolutely clueless. In other words, it's not you, it's them.
Do your best and pursue the things and activities you are good and enjoy. Make something of yourself, create value as an individual. Over time someone will come along that you'll actually want to share some time and some of your life with. In the mean time, you have more important work to do. Like grades, and getting into college.
Most Helpful Girl
Are you sure you're going for guys who you think might have a thing for you as well? Or are you one of those girls who crush on guys for some time and have little to no interaction with them yet still ask them out? More so often especially at your age girls come across as desperate if they ask the guy and keep making all the moves (what my guy friends have told me about this issue).
Personally I never ever ask a guy out myself because I wanna put myself out there as being the one desired by someone rather than it being me chasing and going after someone. As a female it's good to take advantage of this privilege (while we still have it lol). Whenever I attempt or make moves on a guy myself it never works out the way I want it to.
Lastly don't make dating a big priority to you. The more I cared about getting a guy the less guys were going for me. The less I cared about it and had fun with my friends and doing things I enjoyed the more they approach me and want to get to know me. It's kind of a strange thing really, many people are attracted to people who don't really care so much about dating (or at least make it look like that way).
I'm not saying guys will come flocking to you when you don't care but you will live more happily if you stop caring so much about it. And guys are just attracted to happy girls. And another good tip is to make yourself look a bit more presentable which can go a long way tbh.3