So I meet this girl not too long ago. She was a victim of sexual assault and her parents really are kind of assholes to her. She is a thick girl, but she barely has any fat on her body, she is just built that way. I absolutely LOVE it. She is short, fair skin, freckles, omg she is so beautiful and exactly what I want in a woman physically, however she finds herself ugly. I'm a successful technical professional working on moving my career to the next level. She does one thing no other woman has for me: encourages and supports me. Basically, we talked for about a month, hung out a couple times and I ended up telling her that we should just be friends. I just didn't feel like I made her happy or that she really liked me that much. She went ape-shit and told me all this stuff about how that wasn't the case, so I gave her a chance. We ended up getting together, but she was always so distant. Eventually I broke up with her because of inappropriate "friendships" with ex's and made it very clear I wouldn't tolerate that. I'm not *that* jealous, but I know when a guy is trying to move in on my woman. She immediately begins dating another guy and gets screwed over, tries to come back, backs out so I just cut off all communication with her for a few weeks and start moving on. She had given me this list of things like "you only want sex, you expect too much from me, you don't like my friends, you are so much older (I'm 10 years her senior). Fine, go do your thing, it is okay but I won't be on your back burner. The other day she tells me "She was scared because I made her feel loved and want to fall in love with me and it freaked her out and made her run." when I ask if she just wants closure. I ask her on a date, she eagerly accepts and then today tells me "you can do better than me with a list of what are essentially insecurities. "I'm broke, I may be pregnant, I have no ambitions." etc. Told her sounds like an "It isn't you it is me." She denied it, but I'm curious.
Girls, She gives me a laundry list of why I can do better?
What Girls Said 3
I think she sounds like a headcase no offense if you like her a lot... but sometimes some things aren't meant to work out for reasons unknown till later... maybe she's truthfully doing you a favor that you dont know yet... look how many issues you have had just trying to date this female... think about the trust issues that would arise... her talking to exs.. her body shame.. her self insecurity... she has no goals sounds like... she sounds like she's put herself in some bad predicaments... it can go on and on.. some people in life your better to watch from afar there amazing to look at but up close its a complete mess... and she has some bags to unpack and clean up before attempting to have a serious relationship... and are you digging this female because she's a hot mess or because you think you ca change her world for her... because you can't... no offense but this female has mental issues to work threw and only she can do that on her own and in her own time... hence why you have been "on call or the back burner" .. not because she was freaked its bc mental problems and trust issues which eventually destroy your relationship or her and you...2
Someone broke her and bad, we all have that one person that breaks us, it sounds like hers was mentally. She can't see herself in the same way you see her. She can't understand why someone who looks like you, as kind as you are etc., wants her because she keeps hearing what a few guys who probably claimed they loved her said. It doesn't matter why they said it they did and enough of them that she bought it. A girl like that is work, but in the end, and with the right guy, she will bloom into something beautiful. I've been where she is i understand what she's going through.0
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