Although online dating has now become commonplace, the stigma around guys' intentions remains, leaving us girls with a little bit of skepticism in the back of our minds while we navigate through Tinder and Bumble bachelors.
So, my question is simple - guys, how do we know you're on these apps for more than having the convenience of ensuring your weekends are filled with Netflix and chill partners?
For example... do you only give your number out to a select few? Put in more effort when setting up a date? Are you just straight up about being on the lookout for sex? Etc.
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Tinder is primarily viewed as a hook-up app, at least in north America. You should assume hookup unless they indicate otherwise.
In general, with dating sites? Signs he's looking for more than just sex:
- he asks you out, not to his place/your place for a first AND second meeting.
- he's up for including you in events with his friends, and meeting your friends.
- he's interested in more than just sex. Note that doesn't mean he's NOT interested in sex, because he should be, and is testing to make sure you're not just playing for attention and not really into him.
I'd also suggest straight up asking. You might be surprised. The guys I know who are actually getting laid easily, and only interested in that, are very honest about it. They are NOT worried about not getting laid, they ARE worried about girls 'getting the wrong idea' and being 'clingy'. So they are fairly open about it. Beyond that, girls who are looking to hookup tend to pretend they don't hook up if you talk relationship at them. So... in general those guys don't pretend. They are constantly saying they are looking to just 'have fun' and not tie each other down or other messages that they don't want commitment.
There are a few people out there lying their asses off too, but most of them suck at it, and most of the people who fall for it are being blind to obvious signs. There really aren't THAT many people who are smooth liars, want to lie, totally pretend they're serious when they're not. If you get burned by one of those few? Well that sucks. But if you are looking for guys who SAY they want a relationship, ACT like they want more than sex, and DON'T hide you from friends/family... you're pretty safe.1