I'm a 19-year-old virgin who is just a bit old fashioned. Whenever I ask a girl out, the first date goes great, but after that they tell me they're not looking for a relationship, just a hookup. They cut me off because they don't want to "corrupt" me. Whatever happened to taking your time? Everyone is just out for sex now and it makes no sense to me. I'm a hopeful romantic. I'm in love with the thought of being in love. I'm down for the chase, but it seems like there are so many people now who just want instant gratification. Sometimes I wonder if I should just give in and join the club.
Most Helpful Girl
Sweetheart, be direct. When you ask her out, tell her then and there that you're looking for classic dating and not sex. She'll tell you right then and there if that's a problem. You will find the right lady really soon. And hey, I face this problem too, and I'm 24. Patience and prayer is the key!2
Most Helpful Guy
Aw man I know what you mean. I actually had one that wanted to try and "corrupt me" needless to say she ended up picking up that check. I got out of there fast. All of the women at my college seem to want a few things
1 just sex-freinds with benefits
2 to make fun of me when I try freindily approach them and try to strike up conversation.
3 a quick relationship existing online or in person between classes until they feel that we can go to the next level-sex.
No don't just give up and join the club stay unique and wait for your future wife. Who is waiting for you looking for someone with your values and views.
I eventually just kind of gave up looking for women at college after an incident where I started freindlily talking with a lesbain. We talked for 5 minutes she let me know that she was into ladies and she had a girl freind still I was freindly with her and continued talking with her. After a few more minutes of us having fun talking her girlfreind comes around the corner of the building and without warning throws her hot coffee on me. After which she starts acting out calling me a creep and making a scene. After I walked away thankfull that none got on my back pack. I looked back to see her girlfreind consoling her which quickly lead to kissing. Boy did I feel used. If she had given me some warning, maybe had thrown water on me or cold coffee. I would not have cared as much. However she threw her hot coffee right at my neck. Just to impress her girlfreind and show her how "loyal" she is.
After that I started looking for women at my church. After a few misses- still sluts or miss matches. I noticed my freind after knowing her a year somehow I have developed feelings for her and I'm trying to get my courage up to ask her on a date. I have been making it pretty clear that I like her these past few months so unless she is really dense she gets that I like her.
Keep looking around man. The right girl is out there for you. Sometimes you just have to look for a while, in different places, try different online websites.0