My boyfriend is Hispanic and we have been dating for a whole year now. I go to his house almost everyday and his parents are very welcoming, warm, and friendly. They treat me like family and I also sleep over at his house sometimes. However, his parents always question me if my parents knew about our relationship together. I told them no because my strict Asian parents did not allow me to date because they think I'm still too young at 20. That was only half the truth. My parents also would never allow me to be with a Hispanic guy simply because they think Hispanics men are "fuckboys" and aren't committed. My boyfriend is the sweetest person in the world and is the furthest thing from being a fuckboy but my parents would never give him a chance simply because of his race. My parents have told me that they do not want to meet him and to not bring him over to our house. But my boyfriend really wants to meet them. What do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
I'm Asian: Filipino, actually. What are you, guys?
From what I've seen, traditionalist parents don't really hate the (in U. S. terms) "color of your skin", but more of familiarity with the culture & language, feeling at home in your ethnic setting, and the like. They want mutual understanding, more predictable behavior they can agree with, and the same values. If your parents are like I imagine, he might have more of a chance if her were to intently study your culture, language, national history, pop culture, media, etc. Has he started doing this?
Also, were are you two now in your relationship: already boyfriend & girlfriend (though unofficially on your side alone), very deep friends who are seriously considering the next step, something else?
If the latter, perhaps it would be good if you were to introduce him as a friend and let the relationship naturally flow in front of them, so they really get to learn about him and get used to seeing you two together. If he show a lot of genuine interest in their world and practically becomes a natural part of your household, he may actually stand a chance.0
Most Helpful Girl
Talk to your boyfriend about how your parents feel, and work together in a way to make your parents happy.0