I recently lost a lot of weight and women are hitting on me a lot more now. Most recent I was at a sports park and some girls asked me to play volley ball with their group. We play a bit and then chatted a bit and I found out she is 18.
She was fun and confident and attractive and if not for her age I'd definitely go out with her. The age difference doesn't bother me, but to me an 18 year old is just a kid. I can barely remember life before living on my own, but thats all she knows.
I also feel like I'm some sort of predator if I go out with her. I mean, she's surrounded by guys with no job, no car, and who live with their parents, and haven't even finished puberty yet. I mean I do believe I'm a great guy, but it seems like I'm taking advantage of the fact she has almost no life experience yet.
What do you think. Is she too young, or should I go out with her?
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Yes it is normal to feel like that, but you should go ahead and do it anyway. "If not for her age you'd definitely go out with her"- and an 18yr old isn't really a kid any more. You're a decent guy, you know that you yourself will be going out of your way NOT to taking advantage of her relative lack of experience, so you should give her a fair chance. If you don't, if you reject her for such a trivial reason, then it's far more likely that the next guy who comes along to try and snap such a delectable prize up for himself WILL be looking to take advantage of her from the outset. She's legally an adult- you owe it to her to look past the superficial detail of her age and look at her as an individual. The typical 18yr old may be just a kid in your eyes, and that's fair enough- most 18yr olds have a huge amount of growing up to do. But this young lady's isn't just an average 18yr old- she's herself, an individual, and instead of age-profiling her, you should give her a chance, and go out with her to see for yourself whether she's mature enough for you or not. Judge people on what you know and learn about them, not on group generalizations and assumptions about 'people like them'. And the only way to gain that knowledge, and learn whether or not she's mature enough for you, is by going out with her.1