I'm 18 years old and i've never had a single girlfriend. Its getting to the point where i have basically stopped trying. I've tried being outgoing, i've tried acting like a bad boy, i've tried all sorts of methods and no luck. I don't even talk to girls at this point since i don't want to waste my time, but whenever i see a really cute girl in class or something i at least take a glance at them... but never think of saying anything. Maybe i'm just physically unattractive.. is that it? It's not like i'm out of shape or anything i actually work out just about every week and have some muscle... Maybe i have some kind of curse lol but seriously i don't know what to do and i'm tired of the same results... Anyways i am currently a freshman in college and so far i haven't talked to or made friends with anyone... i'm a natural introvert and prefer to stay to myself and think things through. That being said i have a hanaquaintances. I guess i just feel incompetent when im around an attractive girl. In middle and highschool i was much more outgoing and i talked A LOT... but in elementary school and now i'm back to being an introvert...
Most Helpful Girl
This makes me sad... I wish that this never happened to people and that the world was perfect. My advice, NEVER give up. You don't need a girlfriend to find true love. My parents never even dated! And they are living happily ever after as far as I can tell! :) You might not find that special. someone now, but you have to be patient. The modern world. makes people who don't have girlfriends/boyfriends look bad but this is Wrong. Just be yourself!!! Someday, someone special lady will fall in love with YOU, and not who you are trying to pretend to be!!! :) She'll find you, someday!!! Good luck!!!0
Most Helpful Guy
You are only 18, well I would say that is your choice. Like if you know what kind of a person you are, if you know what your standards and if you know for sure that there is every chance that a woman can't match to your standards ( naturally) then you can come to the conclusion of never finding love.
You finding love or not by large depends on what kind of a person you are. If you are very closed minded, you are rigid, your thinking is very uptight, your standards are very uncompromising, strict and high and if you give importance to both physical looks and personality, in that case chances of you finding love becomes very less.
Coming to you, no you are not physically unattractive, you are good looking no doubt about that. From your post there are certain things you shouldn't do, like you shouldn't try to act like a bad boy, you shouldn't forcibly try to be outgoing if you are not, you should be yourself. Never fake yourself that won't help you at all. Secondly you said that you never try to talk to women, now that is a big setback, now if you are not doing that which means you are simply waiting for a woman to notice you and approach you, a woman to take the first step. Yes, I understand maybe that's your incapacity to make the first and yes it's possible that a woman can make the first move, however if you are waiting for this to happen let me tell you the chances are less, you are bringing down your chances by 50% already.
Believe it or not, though times are changing, trends are changing even today men are expected to pursue a woman , they are expected to make the first move. Yes women are making the first move, they do but it's still less compared to men so by you not doing anything your chances ( of finding love) comes down by a good margin.
There is nothing wrong is you being a introvert, and no it's not a curse or something.
Another point is you may not like to hear this, not everyone finds love, some people they keep trying but they never find it. Only a few manage to find love.
Yes, everyone deserves to be loved but not everyone finds love, not everyone gets love.0