I practice martial arts since I was 8. I can confidently bring down a group of dudes without hesitation unless they are armed.
Although I am well trained in martial arts, I am still very feminine. I am on the petite and I wear skirts and wear makeup most all the time. However whenever guys who get to know me and saw my abilities, they tend to run. Are most guys like that or no?
Most Helpful Guy
Most guys are not like that. In these modern times, people are becoming more accepting of others who step outside of typical gender roles, and more and more women are doing activities that would normally be associated with males, such as being police officers, the military or mixed martial arts. You shouldn’t feel stressed or anxiety over the path you’ve chosen; you have the right to be who you are and if someone can’t accept you for who you are, all that you are, then they don’t deserve to be with you in my view.
Trust in yourself and stay confident. You’ll find the right person out there who wants to be with you and doesn’t care that you do martial arts or as you say you can take down a bunch of dudes, no problem. There is nothing wrong with being a strong, confident, woman, and I know plenty of males who appreciate such attributes in a woman, and would be thrilled to date you and be in a relationship with you. Therefore, do what is going to make you the happiest and don’t change who you are for someone else. They should accept you as you are instead. That’s my bottom line.
Most Helpful Girl
Well afaik most guys (all guys I've ever known) don't mind girls with abilities. On the flipside, they love them, love being able to brag about their girl the Black Widow or whatever dumb shit they go on bragging about.
So it's probably either you are just really good at finding the seriously insecure guys or out of the two factors, it's not your abilities that are off-putting.1