I've never dated before, but I've been told that I'd be a great boyfriend. I love listening to people, helping and genuinely being a good person. I'm a pretty sappy guy. I read, write, draw, listen to and play music. And I'm a hopeless romantic. The thought of finding my soul mate is one that I think of often.
So naturally, I've always looked for somebody who I thought would be compatible, somebody who, like me, appreciates the little things and has a great outlook on life. Only a few things have kept me from dating. It's not even looks or anything either. Again, I've been told I'm "a pretty good lookin' dude." But it's mostly been because I'm too shy, and the fact I have no sexual feelings.
It's worth noting I'm just about to turn 18 in a little bit, so I'm pretty much past puberty, so I found that I'm asexual the easy way. I like girls, but I just want to hang around and show love through ordinary everyday actions, like helping out. I'm waiting to date after high school, but when the time comes, I actually wish a girl would ask ME out, because I'm too nervous to ask her.
So, what do you think? When the time comes, will any of that matter?
I've had some other guys say stuff like, "You're still young. Just wait." And "You just haven't found the right girl." Typical stuff. But that was other guys. I've very rarely brought it up to the other sex, though. If that helps explain anything as well.
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You're still young, and there are plenty of girls your age who don't want to have sex either (not asexuals, just that they want to get to know a guy first before having sex, or they just don't feel like they're ready). So you shouldn't be afraid to start a relationship!
Down the line, sex will have to be something you talk about. But you can tell her that you want to take things slow at first, and then as you two become more comfortable you can tell you're asexual and the two of you can figure out what to do about sex (if it's something she wants at that point).0