I've met a lot of guys who never had a girlfriend (or have had girlfriends) and tend to complain about being single or are afraid of ending up alone. These are totally valid concerns, I don't want to say that it's dumb, but for every guy who had concerns, I have met a girl who was willing to date him.
Usually, the flirting is kind of obvious and all of their friends notice it, never do the guys themselves make a move though.
I know there's probably no interest but almost all of the girls are very sweet, kind & beautiful individuals, have a lot in common with them and would make wonderful girlfriends, so why don't those guys just start dating the girls who are actually interested in them instead of chasing after girls who don't even know they exist?
(I know that girls do it too, I've just experienced that guys can complain for days about their relationship status and most girls I know rarely talk about it.)
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- they don't pick up subtle signs. Partly men tend to be worse at this than women. Partly, people with low self esteem tend to discount signs that someone else might be interested in them.
- having never had a real relationship, they don't know what it's supposed to be like when it's good. So a girl who is pleasant and friendly, they think they've had a chance. They have nothing (more intense) to compare it too.
- they have an idealized version of a relationship. Rather than finding someone who is cool to hang out with who would be hot naked and seeing what develops, they are holding out for someone who is beautiful enough to make them feel (fake) emotions right away. Ironically, their desire to NOT sleep around is making them have dumb expectations.
- because ultimate, at your age, there is not a girl for every guy. Because significant numbers of 18-24 women are dating older guys, there's a big supply and demand imbalance that works in the girl's favor. From late 20's onward, there is a mild supply and demand imbalance in men's favor. Of course this also depends where you live - if you live in a small college town for a liberal arts school, things are likely strongly in guys favor.0