I'm 19 in college and I feel like I'm too ugly for girls because I'm 5'6 so that's too short as a man for women, I'm not confident because I don't feel like I'm a funny guy no matter how much I try and that's like THE #1 trait for girls to be attracted to them, I can't dress well no matter how much I try, I can't say the right things for girls to be interested in me, and I just feel like a failure in life because of my social anxiety. Sometimes I just feel like giving up because life nowadays is not a damn fairy tale where "one day you'll meet that special girl." Society now is too superficial on height and feel like I should go through surgery to increase my height. I work out, I play the piano (even though no girl would like that because it's not a real talent), I'm a geniune guy but that doesn't mean shit in this life. I freeze every time I "try" to talk to a girl and it's really hurting me inside. The only things that girls look for is whether he's good looking, tall, funny, and kinda jerkish and me I'm the opposite of those things. It's like I have a disease or something when I talk to girls. So should I throw in the towel and call it quits with women because I know is not going to hand me anything. This is really getting me frustrated.
Most Helpful Girl
Literally, your issue is your attitude towards women.
Fun fact I keep trying to nail into guy's heads: women do not like JERKS. Women just don't like pushover, butt-kisser types or claim to just be "genuine" and "nice." Half of the self proclaimed "nice guys" are assholes that'll hold a door open for you and then expect you to go out with them.
Now, with that out of the way, I know plenty of girls who date guys your height. I've gone on dates with guys your height. It's only a big deal for a few select girls who are more of the shallow variety or if YOU choose to make it a big deal and let it hold you back.
We all have flaws, I used to have crippling anxiety to the point where I didn't want to leave the house, until I realized that letting it control me was hindering my life, and mine alone. I suggest you deal with that before you worry so much about women. It's turning you into one of the many bitter men that women avoid.2
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Most Helpful Guy
YOU'RE the one letting your shortcomings affect you. Nobody else. You have to own up to that.
Yes, of course nobody is going to hand you anything. Stop expecting people to. Humans are selfish, if you have nothing to offer, nobody will give two shits about you.
So guess what? Time to start improving yourself. It ain't gonna be easy, but it's going to be worth it. Number one. Figure out how to dress. Find out what clothes fit you. Hire a stylist if you need to. Post pics on Reddit fashion and ask how you can improve. Then follow through and DO IT.
Second. Figure out how to talk to people. Read one book: "HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE" by Dale Carnegie. Use it like your Bible.
Third. Switch your "ohhh pity me my life sucks i should just quit" attitude into "I have something to offer people. I am cool, I have skills, I have hobbies that are interesting to other people, I have funny stories to tell." Don't have those? Learn them. I play the piano and have impressed multiple women with it. So don't go knocking down the piano. Be the life of the party. Give people a reason to pay attention to you. Always strive to make the situation you're in more fun. People will gravitate towards you. Don't worry about girls for now. Just worry about being a fun person.
You've got your mission. Now go out and commit to it, or sit on your ass alone until the day you die, and the world won't even notice you're gone.0