I am a hermit and I realize that if I don't talk to women that I am most likely going to stay alone unless I get lucky and a woman approaches me, due to receiving advice on here from males and females as well as getting advice on other sites, I am starting to try to make simple small talk with women, talking about anything, if I am at college talk about education, the library talk about books, but within what feels like less than a minute, women just don't want to talk to me, with just saying hello or how is your day, I get, "I have a bf" or "I am not interested", I am so frustrated with trying to just have small talk, if it is this hard talking to women making small talk I can imagine if I really do ask them out, i just get rejected and I'm not even asking them out I am just trying to develop my social skills but I am just not getting the time of day, my friends just say hi and some don't even speak to women and they have women coming to them or the women are so interested in them, I conducted an experiment with multiple women because I have become so upset, I get rejected without even asking them out and my friends do the same thing but the women want to talk to them and many have brought those women home, I just don't understand, I am not a weirdo, I live a normal life, I have normal hobbies, I take a shower and brush my teeth, lol, I dress normal, but nothing, it's so frustrating because I have never had a girlfriend and every time I just try to develop my social skills I get shot down, I mean wtf, my mom and sisters and friends tell me to wait or the right one will come along but I am slowly making my way to 30yo and what then? People are going to think i am a weirdo and women are going to be turned off and raise a red flag because they realize I have no experience in talking to women whatsoever does anyone have any advice?
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I have the same issue except it's the guy that doesn't give me a chance haha. I don't think there is much you can do if you are already trying. I think it is better than not trying at all and maybe you really haven't met the right girl yet. I guess approaching people in public out of the blue might seem a bit odd to the girl maybe. Try going to parties and meet people there? What about extra-curricular activities?0
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