He is a great, caring, funny guy. He doesn't have the best job and only has a high school diploma. He gets paid about 25,000 a year and I get paid around 35,000 a year but that will rise as I gain more experience in my job to about 50,000. I want him to go back to college because whoever he ends up being with ( Its really early in the relationship but he is 30 and I am 25 so we want to know what eachother wants in the future) and with having a family it would help with support. He isn't wanting to go back, he is afraid of change and doesn't think it's worth it. I really like him and its thinking way in the future but it would be hard to get by with less than 100,000 a year to live with a family possibly 2 kids without having to live paycheck to paycheck.
- YesVote A
- NoVote B
- Only if he agreed to go back to collegeVote C
Most Helpful Guy
I'm not saying money is everything, but damn... A guy who can't handle his career can't handle anything else either. You should really look elsewhere. The issue with him isn't college -- it's ambition and motivation. If he went to college, he probably wouldn't be any good at it because anyone who is ok with making $25,000/year at age 30 isn't going to be the type of person who has the self-motivation needed to be successful in school.
I'm sure he's a nice guy who's funny and caring, but I have two daughters and I work my ass off for them. I made $410,000 last year and no, money isn't everything but those girls are my world and while I know I can't give them everything (that's impossible), I know that if I work hard, I can give them anything. I'm not saying your guy needs to make a certain amount, but if you're going to trust this guy to raise a family with you, I think he needs to be a guy who isn't going to leave you guys broke and shrug his shoulders as if he's doing everything he can for the family.1
Most Helpful Girl
For me the money isn't really the issue but his lack of ambition. I get not "liking change" but at the end of the day, if some change is going to earn you more bank, then what the hell? 25k really isn't a lot, I make about half of that a year and I only work part-time (~7 nights a month), and I'm still in school as well. I wonder what kind of dead-end job your guy has.
If you want a family and want to make sure you don't get any financial struggles (knock on wood though, you never know if you/your guy might get let go), then it makes sense to want to push him a little to do more, or to even find someone else. Kids cost a shit ton of money and 25k a year wouldn't even cover half of it.0