How come my answer got a lot of uppies, but didn't get best answer?
@thissiteisforpervs because it's titled "most helpful". Not "most popular".
But mine was the "most helpful"
this answer is great. very practical advice
Not at all
*Threesome, is what I meant to say.. xx
Thank you for the Like, and Best of Luck, dear!! xxoo
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we all make mistakes, man. that's how you learn. some people learn from other's experiences, some people need to go through it themselves. don't shame her. that's only going to fuel her self loathing and lower her self esteem. build people up, not tear them down.
@spassticer but you shouldn't have to learn certain things.. certain things should just be obvious.. but you're right, i shouldn't try to shame her
maybe she didn't have parents around to teach her things. just because something is obvious to you, doesn't mean it's obvious to others. maybe she grew up as an orphan or in less than secure circumstances.we all are different. you should just be grateful these thins are obvious to you. do you get what i'm saying?
@spassticer were all born with instincts that tell us right from wrong.. even if i didn't have parents, id still know not to jump off a bridge. but yes, i still understand your point
i dont know about that. there are a kazillion prostitutes who pawn themselves out for 10 dollars in less developed countries.abused women stay with men who beat them all the time. i think you should do some research on "attachment styles" to understand why people stay with those who abuse them.people often become more attached to those who hurt them. it's called trauma bonding. a more extreme example of this is "stockholm syndrome" where the kidnappee starts identifying and sympathizing with the kidnapper.you should try to empathize and look at another person's perspective as to why they might be that way.that said, you don't know what you might have turned out if you were in her circumstances. perhaps, it would be worse.
humans are really complicated and complex. it's not so much as "go respect yourself" you idiot.it's so much more twisted than that.
@spassticer I don't know about that. i dont need people to tell me not to disrupt an existing relationship. you can use all the psychological terminology you want but it comes down to common sense. its just too obvious
that's what im trying to tell you. this has NOTHING to do with common sense.i think im talking to a wall. good luck and thanks for providing another point of view.
you clearly aren't understanding or comprehending anything im telling you, including psychological jargon. lol
@spassticer first you say "build people up instead of tearing them down"then you call me a brick wall.. lol good luck trying to put on a front like you're some kind of angel :)
you're not listening and just repeating the same insulting sentiment- that it's common sense and that people who don't have the ingrained instinct deserve what they get. that's what im getting from you. i could be wrong.you're a troll. go troll somewhere else.
never said i was an angel but i will call a troll/gym rat douchebag when i see one. :)
@spassticer im not trolling. im being completely honest right now.. and here we go with the insults lol.. keep building me up... lmao
at first i thought you might be mistaken and was just a guy who didnt' know he was doing wrong so i gave you the benefit of the doubt.but then you just proved to me that you're dismissive and ignorant. this is my last message to you.
@spassticer ok good night now
Easier said then done...