Would you want to be with someone who just wants you because you're good looking? Like they don't even know you much and don't even try but desperately want you so much just because you're a good catch and probably good for their ego if they date you or end up with you. If they don't appreciate the other ideas of yours but treat you like a trophy thing. It's not that bad to be someone's desire, but as a person it makes you feel kind of worthless on a deeper level for that person.
Most Helpful Guy
I'm really not that confident in my appearance so I kinda like the idea of a girl who is really attracted to me but I guess that still wouldn't matter if I don't like myself first.
As far as it making me feel like less of a person, I don't know. I believe looks are very powerful and have a huge effect on how you perceive people. Hypothetically you could have two people with practically identical personality traits, but you would likely perceive their personalities differently based on how they look. So you kinda have to accept that how you look plays a huge role in attracting people. As long as they also appreciate my other qualities, I don't think I would care too much if my looks were what initially drew them in.0
Most Helpful Girl
We're ALL chosen for looks AT FIRST. ALL of us... Except the partners of blind people.
Before we get the chance to learn anything else about each other, looks are THE operative criterion. The only one. Everything else comes AFTER we see one another.
The questions you SHOULD be asking are...
1) How LONG would I tolerate knowing that looks are STILL what PRIMARILY keeps my partner ATTRACTED?
... As opposed to intimacy, raw sexual chemistry, mental connection, personal history, AND *commitment* (which can be sexy as hell... Oh yeah).
Some people are OK with this for DECADES. For others, if either the raw connection or the chemistry isn't there IMMEDIATELY, we're gone.
2) How much would I tolerate NOT being chosen for my looks?
Honestly... I NEED to know that my man found (and still finds!) me IRRESISTIBLY hot.
If it was one of those "meh I was good-looking *enough* to meet his 'threshold' ... and then it was mostly everything else about me that really got him" type of situations... yeah, I would really not be ok with that.2