In the dating world, is it harder to be a chubby girl or a skinny guy?

In the dating world, is it harder to be a chubby girl or a skinny guy?
I read a myTake and it has got me thinking: When you're not the ideal body type for your sex, it can make finding a partner much, much more difficult. I had recently read a myTake about a young man and his experience in the dating world being the "skinny guy".
In the dating world, is it harder to be a chubby girl or a skinny guy?
As you may know, the ideal body type for a male is to be tall, "jacked", and just masculine all around, and according to him, being skinny was just not that, and he discribed his experiences and plan to change what he wasn't happy with.

As I was reading I thought about my own issues I had previously experienced by being the "fat girl" and how similar they were to his. I am in the process of losing the last bit of weight I need to lose, but it has had me wondering.

I feel like the results will be split between guys and girls because everyone has their own experiences and view on how things are hard. We'll see though.

Please be respectful and mature with your opinion.
It's harder to be a chubby girl.
Vote A
It's harder to be a skinny guy.
Vote B
Both equally have their own problems in dating.
Vote C
Other (explain)
Vote D
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From this poll it is much harder to be a chubby girl because •They are seen as unattractive by many guys •They are usually made fun off and shitted on by other girls. • It is much harder for them to get laid because according to many guys "skinny is better". 🙄 • They aren't respected, like at ALL. • Most fat girls can't rely on looks to get what they want. Well thanks for all the answers. Be on the lookout for my take about being a former fat girl and the struggles I went through.
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  • I think it's about the same, although this is just speculation because nobody knows what it's like to be in the other's shoes. xD And by skinny or chubby here, I'm going by body types similar to the ones in your photos for this question.

    I say it's about equal because --- even though chubby girls and skinny guys are not generally considered to have ideal body types by society --- you can go outside and still see lots of skinny guys and chubby girls who happily have partners in about equal numbers. So it's harder for them to find partners than it is for people with "ideal" body types, but nowhere near the "forever alone" despair that some people make it out to be. xD

    However, one interesting thing to note is that chubby girls are not commonly said to be "less womanly" or "less feminine", just that they are less attractive. And in various times and places around the world, a chubby (or at least thick) girl has even been considered a desirable body type to have. On the other hand, skinny guys are sometimes said to be "less manly" and "less masculine". And I could be wrong, but I don't think skinny guys have EVER been considered to have an "ideal man's body" at any time or place in history. xD

    • ^This!

    • @Blonde401 Thanks! :D I've actually never thought about that point in my last paragraph until RainbowFanGirl asked this question now! xD But once I did realize it, I thought it was pretty interesting. :P

  • Well since I'm male and happen to be skinny (not as much as I used to be, as I've noticed as of late), I'm of course leaning towards saying that being a skinny guy is harder. But, of course, I don't, never have, and never will have the experience of being a chubby girl, nor can I imagine it. It's an entirely different set of problems.

    Tho that doesn't mean I can't come to some objective conclusions. Considering that this whole "body acceptance" thing pretty much only extends to women, I'd say non-perfect female bodies are given a pass more often than non-perfect male ones.

    • "body acceptance" isn't really working out in the dating world though... Chubby girls may hear "you're beautiful just the way you are" from friends and relatives but it won't get them boyfriends. I think as a skinny guy you either have to be quite tall or have a very handsome face to overcome the being skinny disadvantage.

    • @JohnDoe3000 well my face isn't all that handsome and my height is only 6'1 so I don't have it going in either department. But yeah, you actually have a point there.

    • I think 6'1" may actually be just tall enough, even in Latvia.

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  • "C" For Both. No One person is any "Better OFF" 'In th eDating World." It's not Always About the Size before Someone's Eyes But... Personality, that Highlights And Delights. I think this Road Goes Both ways.
    Again, and it Seems that No one Gets it. Without Personality, it doesn't Matter if you are the Most Beautiful King or Queen of Hollywood, if you Don't have What it Takes, Portraying A Fake, it Porays you Someone who is "Very Ugly Inside." THis will Ruin a Person's Beauty, whiich of course is Always Beholded by the Beholder.
    I will Revert back to "Unconditional Love Once more. I had told you Last week when you Invited me to Reply to Another "Similar," however a bit "Differrent" kind of Question.
    If Someone Special Accepts you as you Are, No matter how Big or Small or Short or Tall, He or She will Love you and Accept you for WhoYou are, and Not some Trophy Piece Who Shows and Tells.
    Good luck and Thanks for the Invite. xx

  • Chubby women.

    So what my friends and I have concluded is simply - Men get shit for dating heavier women. Its sad and shallow but very true. If you are not fat and hang around younger men enough you will invariably hear jokes about drunken hookups with "fat chicks". It is supposed to be embarrassing to get with a heavier woman because men are so focused on bodies, or at least they are supposed to be. But its somewhat more acceptable to hook up with heavy woman while drunk, which is why sadly a lot of overweight girls have random hook ups that never call, and don't get asked out often. Of course there are exceptions to this - there are men out there that are totally not ashamed to be attracted to and love a heavier woman. But socially, it is not really accepted among men so they hide it.

  • I think both but chubby girls do have a hard time, also some guys treat chubby girls different in a bad way my dad came home pissed because he was hearing these stories at the gym. These guys were saying how they would never date fat girl and they will only use them for sex and that's it. My dad was angry because I myself is chubby and I don't care that I'm fat as long I keep eating healthy and exercising everyday I am healthy. Finding someone was extremely hard for me but thankfully I found someone that loves me for who I am

    • Exactly you are so right. I'm glad you found someone who accepts you for who you are! That's rare these days.

    • Thank you so much and yes it's really rare

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  • I would say chubby girls. Because its hard finding clothing when your plus size, people tend to call you names, you dont see full figure women being idolized on televisison.

  • I feel like skinny guys are A Thing in a lot of subcultures whereas there's no place where bigger girls are popular except specific fetishes.

    • It's sad really.

    • Fat shaming is sad period

  • I've seen some studies that suggest fat women have just as much sex as normal sized women. I'm gonna say skinny guys have it more difficult.

    Yes, men focus on looks a lot. But, women still have vaginas, which means they can still get laid easy. They just can't get laid by the guys they want to get laid by. But, if their frustrations grow too large, they can just pick some random guy to fuck. Skinny guys don't have that option.

  • I've never been either one so I can't speak with any real authority on it, but overall, I feel like the whole thing is overblown. Yes, there are always the ones that we all lust over who fit the bill physically, but go take a walk around outside and you'll see couples of all attractiveness levels. Like what happens to everyone who gets rejected by the straight up lookers, it's going to be like 90% of us, haha. We base our standards too much on media and celebrities. It's just attractive people pairing off with attractive people... but that's not real life, we're focusing on a small pool of attractive people who are famous largely BECAUSE they're attractive and the attractive famous people fuck other attractive famous people. Go to a Walmart if you want to see reality. Some people look ok, some are decidedly average, some are outright eyesores, haha. I just don't really buy it when people say they're too this or too that to find someone. It's the losing attitude that's really the problem.

  • I think it's harder when one is chubby because more people are open to overweight vs thin women. (I'm going off anecdotal evidence-maybe there's data or a GaG poll that says otherwise)
    Whereas women will usually accept a guy with a body that doesn't fall into her ideals because we're less visual than guys are. Whereas guys, when they don't know you, mostly go off what they see.

    • I so agree. I know this firsthand too.

    • *more people open to thin women vs overweight* sorry, typo. Yea, thin has been in for such a long time in America, some guys love curves and chubbiness, but more love a thin body. (in my experience and where I live)

    • thanks for mho

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  • I think all body types can have problems because each one of us have their own preferences, so what may seem a problem for you may be a turn on for someone else 🙉

  • ewww... ewwww... dont want either

    aren't millenials or what ever they are called all waffers? like 90 pounds wet? so they have to date their own kind at least some

    • there are a lot of chubby chasers though, and even more secret chubby chasers. right now we have the whole PLUS size model thing going on, so its wrong to say that they have no respect or anything. as long as u look attractive and not just opening up a bakery i think u are very well off. girls make fun of each other all the time, they are always mean, and always have and will be. but as far as girls vs guys. skinny guys are rails/ bean poles with what? nothing going for them. while at least chubby girls have huge ass and titties that as i said most guys in secret will like at least. so its def the better of the two. now which is easier to change? im not sure. in theory its equal to build muscle, but the chubby person has to focus on not eating as much so maybe a smig more difficult there. this is unbiased as i like NEITHER. i dont like skinny guys, think they are gay. and i dont like chubby girls. tried it once and could barley keep my dick hard...

  • Thanks for A2A!

    I don't know any friend (20+ people) of mine who is skinny and didn't get laid. Apparently, girls prefer ectomorphs over endomorphs. For guys, it's JUST about the confidence and perpetual efforts. That's it!

    Girls don't have a hard time either. Sit anywhere and just open your legs.

    Maybe skinny guys would have it a little harder to get that hottest chick or a bunch of hot chicks at once like those ripped bodybuilders have it, but at least, they won't have it that hard to find a long term stable relationship.

    Fat girls will have it harder and be out of choices when it comes to long term relationships tho.

    I don't even know what to vote. But still, I voted A as personally, I don't see myself with any fat girl in the future regardless of how I look.

    (My apologies if I sounded rude. I'm feeling sleepy as it's 2:44 AM and I have a lot of burden for the morning. Plus, I came from a myTake having 50+ ridiculous comments)

  • probably harder to be chubby. i'm sure both face their share of adversity in the dating world but i feel like chubby or fat people still have a harder road to go down

  • I think it's probably harder to be a chubby girl Peale tend to judge women/girls A LOT more harshly then men.

    • * people

  • Both. Some people prefer chubby while some prefer skinny. Its really just all about your preference.

  • Everyone no matter who they are have their own problems in the dating world. Where I live lots of guys have chubby girlfriends and lots of girls have skinny boyfriends. If you're a good person and take care of yourself then you'll be fine. I don't think it's right to behave like a victim like they're the only ones going through things because the reality is those are fixable issues. If they don't like something then work to improve it, don't just complain that people don't like you. If you have a good personality and do the most generic things in hygiene and grooming, then you're set.

  • its funny because I see a lot of couples that look just like those two together.
    I voted both

  • I think from seeing my surroundings it's harder for a man that's overweight then a girl.

    • No you know what I gotta change my answer, life is hard in general!. XD just today I saw a really over weight guy with a pretty petite girl. It's just both ways honestly! But Really it's just XD this life is hard.

  • I see obese girls in couples everywhere around me. Those guys who don't look nice, they're all alone.

    • Really? I see the opposite where I am. All the skinny dudes have girlfriends and the fat ones are all alone.

  • Chubby girl.

  • Chubby girl

    • Yeah I think it's sad because both men and women pick on fat chicks.

  • Being too fat is harder than being too skinny, no matter what gender you are.

  • That girl isn't chubby, that's fat

    • Well chubby and fat are synonymous.

    • No they're not😂. Fat=overweight Chubby=more fat on body than skinny people

  • I would definitely say it is harder for chubby girls. As has been said quite often skinny people can get better looking with age. Chubby folk will most like only get fatter as they age and that isn't a good look.

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