I have noticed that every time someone says what kind of guy or girl they like people will get really upset. For instance this one guy said he loves skinny women and doesn't like girls that are overweight I myself is overweight for my height and it did not bother me he even thanked me for taking up for him. Another example I prefer to date white guys, my boyfriend is white, the guys I have dated is white, all of my male crushes are white. People will look at me like it's a bad thing? Plus they will get upset as well. They will get mad if a guy says he likes big breasts/ big butts. If a girl says she likes muscles or like to date black guys. I believe that everyone has the right to have a preference I just don't understand why people gets upset.
Most Helpful Guy
Well, we should clear up something here. Preference is a term too many people use wrongly which is a problem. A preference is something that you would rather have/do more over something else - but that's it. If you only do/like something then that is not a preference, that's an exclusive like.
Personally, I don't see how color makes a difference in a person to the point it renders someone unable to date someone else and be happy with another person because I'm not that way but that's just how some are. In terms of racial "preferences", it should be understandable why some would feel a certain way about it because of all things, it's their ethnicity - something they have no control over that makes them "un-dateable". Weight and skin color can't be compared because one is genetic while the other 99% of the time can be changed, a person can lose weight if they want to, you can't change your ethnicity.
Feel free to read my question where I talked about how racism prevented me from entering a relationship and how it affected me later on. I won't say you're a flat out racist, but if you only date white guys, then that is a racial bias and quite frankly... that's fine. Racial biases exists in many ways, too often nobody wants to own up to their own because of the negative connotations behind it relating to racism. Can't do anything about that... however, it does call to question why we tell children to just be themselves when we all know solely being yourself is not enough in this world.
Just do you, not everyone will take it well... comes with the the territory I suppose, so, hey ¯\_(ツ)_/¯0
Most Helpful Girl
Because that is one more person off of the list, and sometimes when people explain their preferences they can be very rude.
It's one thing to say that you don't like black girls, and if you said "Black girls aren't my preference". It would be totally fine then, but when you flip it around and say "Ew, I would never date a black chick!" That is when it becomes a problem and it can be really hurtful. So then these people get insecure and upset because of that. It's like they intentionally try to make you upset which is why it makes people upset.
If people were a bit more considerate when explaining their preferences then it wouldn't be as much of a problem. Not giving a fuck works too but the passive aggressive way that people explain their preferences doesn't work either.3
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