Can we go back to normal friends after sleeping together?

Long story short, my best girl friend and I slept together over the summer. It was a bad decision because I knew she had feelings for me, but she told me that she could handle a friends with benefits situation. I moved away a few weeks after that, and she got clingy. Nothing strange, just texting me all the time. But, I attributed it to her missing me and seeing how her best friend just moved away. She came to visit, and we had sex again. She also found out I had made out with another girl, and just by her reaction I could tell she was jealous. After she left, I confronted her and asked her whether or not she ever got over me, because it seems like she didn't and was holding on to the idea that we could be together eventually. She freaked out, texting me a bunch saying that she didn't have feelings for me anymore. Since then, I've tried to lay low in the friendship a bit, and treat her like a normal friend. The only problem is she's become a bit clingy. It's not too bad, she'll text me every 3-4 days talking about her life and what we'll do over breaks. She sent me a mid terms care package a few weeks ago. (She's a big gift giver, and sending people shit) But she throws in the occasional "miss you" text, and I don't know how to read it. Can our friendship go back to normal? I think she's trying to make it that way, but I also don't know if she still has the feelings.

we used to text everyday, and she would send another text if I didn't reply. She stopped doing that, and only texts me now every few days. When I confronted her, I reassured her that she's my best friend and that I care about her. So I don't seem like a total asshole here.


Most Helpful Girl

  • It's your fault for having sex with someone who likes you


Most Helpful Guy

  • it sounds like she is trying to get things back to normal. i mean you call it clingy and perhaps it's more texting than normal but 3 texts a day doesn't sound overboard to me... it sounds like things are sorta going towards normal.

    without reading your post i would've said it would be really hard but it sort of sounds like you guys are sort of accomplishing walking the relationship back to friendship


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  • It will be whatever you want it to be. She's obviously not going anywhere and she likes you, so whatever decision you make, just tell her and don't lead her on

  • I'd guess that she's hiding her feelings for you, or she's working on trying to let em fade. She probably recoiled bc you confronted her so quickly in the first place. I'd give it a little more time before I decide.

    Another thing to note is that you should probably figure out what you want from her. Do you want to remain friends (even though it's virtually impossible at this point) or do you want to remain friends with benefits?