If you never planned on dating because you were not financially set or met your career goals what would you do if all of a sudden you fell for a strong independent woman that you don't want to lose? Will it help if she tells you that she needs you and don't want to lose you no matter what? Will that boost your ego and make you work harder to establish your career? Especially if she has been there through your ups and downs or when you got distant or tried to push her away... will that help if she reassures you? If she says she needs you when you have doubts?