That's what I think :)
Yeah but he has the choice to leave, which most will do, you aren't that special.
@amphet11 we will be special to someone. Not everyone is as shallow as you luckily, some people actually value an emotional connection over sex 🙄
Most men don't, without sex it's friendship and not the right type of emotional connection we crave from women. We can knock up multiple women in a day while you can only get pregnant once in 9 months, we almost never wait for very long periods when we can get sex else where , we aren't women.
@amphet11 "Most Men" we're not looking for an average man who will sleep with you and throw you like a cigarette to smoke another.Many men still value sex and still value a deeper connection with a woman.
"Many men still value sex and still value a deeper connection with a woman." yes but they still aren't waiting a year for sex
@amphet11 some are saving it for marriage like my brother...
Well he must just be very religious
@amphet11 that's not a problem for me since I'm religious too :p many guys in my HS are also saving themselves for marriage (from what they told me).
Did you go to a convent?
@amphet11 No I come from a traditional society.
Traditional as in religious though
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That's ridiculous 😂 It's not about thinking I'm so great that I have to test guys to wait that long, it's about building a strong enough connection and feeling fully ready in myself to introduce that physical aspect into a relationship. It wasn't so long ago that it was the norm to wait until marriage; it's really not such a shocking concept. 🙄
Ok then. I guess you and me, even in a hypothetical world, could never be together. I don't see why I should wait for so long.Not judging though. We're not all meant to be together...
Yeah probably wouldn't work because you're 18 years older too...
When I said hypothetical world, I meant in a world where all other criterias are met. Meaning, in a world where this would be the only thing keeping us apart.
Thanks for making me feel old though lol
Wow, comes to something when waiting for someone is mentioned in the same category as diaper fetishes. Sad really.
I didn't mean it like that lol I myself was once in a LDR for 1.5 years so there are definitely guys who'd wait.
Nice guys finish last.
@XuR_CXV_115 They do you're not wrong, but I won't hurt someone else for my benefit. Do I get girls attention? Of course. Will I have attention in the future? Well Im done with year 1 med school at this time , probably. Hookups were for undergrad
That term doesn't mean to be mean, it means not to be the " nice guy" which is glorifying them, don't ignore girls either and make them feel loved but worry about yourself too dude, that's where the " friendzone" thing comes from
@XuR_CXV_115 Oh of course, yeah I dont put them on a pedastal. When a girl plays games I move on within minutes. Im just saying if Im dating someone, ill wait for them.
Man that girl was a major waste of your time
@XuR_CXV_115 In retrospect yes she was, but she also gave me a lot of what I wanted. And she was addicted to me. It wasn't like I was constantly chasing her, she was the one calling me and texting me all the time.She literally flipped over night so it wasn't something I could predict.
Well I wouldn't call it a waste of time then, I'm sure you learned things and had fun times and shitty times too. I'd brand it an experience. Something mildly bad yet yo wouldn't change it
@XuR_CXV_115 Well put
I think that's a ridiculous statement.
What reason can there be for loved ones to wait exactly a year no longer no shorter? It is a ridiculous test of some sort rooted in insecurity.
Oh like sex :p
Ah well then that wouldn't be a problem for me, since I'm waiting till marriage to have sex but I couldn't wait that long to kiss ya haha. I personally think that sex in a courting/dating phase of the relationship takes away from the more important aspects of the relationship. Plus couples that abstain from sex until marriage have more satisfying and fulfilling sex lives in marriage. Plus obviously I'm religious lol.
I completely agree with you. I don't get why it's such an abstract notion for most people 😂
Nice to hear for once haha, yeah it's ridiculous but that's what happens when it's socially acceptable to be a whore. And when we live in a sex obsessed society or you know "progressive".So what about you? are you waiting till marriage or just a year? into it?
I'd definitely wait until marriage, a year is me compromising tbh 😂
Haha well never compromise, stay true if a guy likes you enough and or shares your beliefs he will respect your decision. Unfortunately there are not to many people like us.
There aren't :(
That's ok though only makes our desire to seek out others like us out and to be with them instead of seeking out those that would laugh at our values.
True :) it'll happen for us one day aha
:) Indeed one day.
That one guy that downvoted this...
Why is it a red flag?
I used to just assume if people loved each other and were attracted their sex life would be fine. Now I know better. id almost assume that any given woman, I'm probably -not- sexually compatible with. So could I wait a year for a great sex life? Easily. But the mere fact she would want to wait a year to be sexual means the odds of us being compatible just got even lower.
That's the most shallow b. s. I've heard. The only sexual "incompatibility " would be if one of the people had a freaky fetish that the other couldn't tolerate. Anything else can be worked with. Sex is PIV there isn't much incompatibility there unless your gay.
@sexyhunterchick no, I don't accept that.
@sexyhunterchick I know from experience sexual incompatibility is real.
Can you explain how? Because I keep hearing about this and I've never understood it? Never encountered it. What does it mean? I would think communication would fix any sexual issues you have unless one person is asexual or gay and didn't realize it until they got with you sexually. Semi rare situations
@sexyhunterchick It's the behavior during sex and frequency one wants it. If you don't match enough, you're incompatible.For example, I've dated chicks who I would describe as loud and domineering during sex. They want to scream loud and gyrate out of rhythm to me and try to dictate position. I can't get off with that going on and they can't get off by taking my lead.It's incompatibility.
Whenever I hear this I think shallow douche bag because they are putting sex as a top priority in a relationship when most issues can be resolved by communication and compromise. You can't expect someone to fulfill your greatest sexual fantasies anymore than you expect someone to be a 10 or an IQ of 185 or know 7 languages.
@sexyhunterchick both people can't get off the way the other person likes it. Hello?
Communication and compromise. See? Your putting sex as top priority. People can work with eachother
@sexyhunterchick I'm pretty sure you're not taking my literal example into account.Sexual incompatibility is a real thing.Sex IS a top priority for a relationship anyway. Don't act like its not.
Most of the sexual habits we have are from experiences formed with other past sexual partners. That's why sticking with one person with no previous partners for both of you increases the chance of "sexual compatibility"
Shallow in my opinion
@sexyhunterchick everythings probably shallow to you from what I gather I don't accept your view.
Why are you waiting for long? What are you afraid of?
Why put a time limit on it? You realize some guys will wait and then leave right?
Not knocking your opinion or anything...
Well it's not like I have a fixed one year rule but it would be a long time like that time frame.
Oh thats not so bad... Im a virgin also and would love to lose it to a girl in the context of a beautiful relationship. I think you have a great idea, but I've even been laughed at by females lol. Single moms at that...Fuck stick to your guns while enjoying your life and if you fee tired waiting jump at the first opportunity that comes by just be safe and all...
I think that's a reasonable amount of time to fully get to know someone and build a strong enough emotional connection before sex is even considered.
I agree, but what do you consider a reasonable amount of time? A month? More? There certainly are men out there willing to wait, but don't necessarily think poorly of a man if he doesn't want to, it's just one of those things some men are gonna differ on.
You got way too many fucking answers to this question. Jesus, other men depress me.
Sex I guess
I would still wait after a year, meaning wait till after getting married.
I don't want to rush into anything, I wouldn't be ready to have sex until I was fully comfortable with someone.
I understand but it takes a year to feel comfortable with someone?
Well no but I've never actually had a relationship so it'd take a little longer for me :P
It would have to be a darn good reason for that long, I know someone pretty good within 2 months and very comfortable at that point, if fact most girls would think there is something wrong with me if I took that long but after looking at you I might hold out a little longer