I like this. At last, a realistic view on things.
He missed out on most of his 20s because he was in the navy. He has no kids or ex wife but he'd like to have a family which in time I want but not yet. I know it is a big age difference but right now he makes me happy and he's told me the same. I'm trying to figure out I'd he's actually interested in having a future with me but I'm not sure how to go about it.
You don't need to tip toe - he's an adult and you're starting adulthood. You need to have these conversations. Also, don't get too caught up in feelings and neglect your future. Life can throw a lot of curve balls at you. You can be in love and develop a plan for financial and emotional stability that doesn't revolve around him, too. Because even if he's the best guy on earth, he could get seriously ill or pass away. So, with your young age, don't rush into ONLY building a life around him, though he may push for that at first. The power dynamics of a relationship with s big age gap can be mismatched a bit. Remember yourself in the equation because life looks much shinier at 18 than 34.
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We aren't dating at the moment we're just friends because I'm not really sure if he's interested in being more.
How is it "wrong" ?What does wrong mean to you?I could say that a man abducting women and killing them is wrong because it hurts people. I could say that stealing people's money is wrong because it hurts people.How is two adults making the decision of being together in questionable circumstances be "wrong". You might say that, in your opinion, it's a bad idea. Because of this and that reason. But how can you simply say it's wrong?
@JuicyBrain It's wrong, and creepy!
With such a strong case, I am convinced !
Creepy? He's very sweet to me and different than most guys I know because he's older and has experience. I'm not sure if he's wanting to be more than friends or not though.
Alright, fair enough. It's just, I was incredibly immature at 18 and hope he's not taking advantage of you is all. Hmm, has it usually been him who initiates the cuddling or it's more or less equal?
At first he was the one who would grab my hand or put his arm around me and pull me in but now it's more equal. He's said he enjoys it and that we need to cuddle more because he likes hanging out with me.
I would say he likes you then. Why do you think otherwise?
I asked him why he'd want to hangout with me because I'm so young and he said he likes the companionship and us being friends. He seems to say "just friends" a lot when he talks about us or if someone asks. However, I'll catch him staring at me and we lock eyes. When I asked him why he was staring he said it's because I'm very attractive.
I'm no sure if he is having feelings to want go be with me as more than a friend.
I'd say he likes but he's nervous about you thinking he's a creep or trying to take advantage, so he keeps saying just friends. If you like him, you could always say you find him attractive as well, it would probably change the way he thinks about this.
Alright, thank you very much!
You're welcome, good luck 😊!
You have to decide. Don't let other people dictate how you live your life. Especially, when they don't care about you. You should be able to determine what is best.
I'm mature for my age and he is a really sweet guy and very respectful.
I am 20 and i have 12-14 friends
Well how can I tell if he's interested in being more than friends?
you can't that the problem
I have plenty younger friends as a 20-year-old some of them are 12 and we get along a lot I am a Kidult