I cry almost every night over this, how I fail to attract guys and how I couldn't get a boyfriend like a regular girl could. I try looking up on Google "I'm a teen who has trouble dating" and all that pops up are people already in relationships Having questions or issues. I think I'm just weird how I can't get a guy. I ask over and over again why, what's wrong with me, why do I have to be desperate? It's not fair. I don't want to be a lone. I'm always alone. I'm guessing it's my body, but I don't eat bad, my friend eats like shit , she pulled out a large candy bar Gatorade and some other shitty snack and ate it on top of her lunch and she still has a perfect body and a boyfriend. and I can hardly eat my lunch without wanting to throw it up. a lot of times i do throw up my food.
I asked her if she exercised and she said no sense literally says she sits on her ass all day. I can't do that. My body hates me. My body is disgusting. It's not good enough, and it seems incapable of losing weight obviously. Piece of shit.
What's wrong with me, I'm guessing im weird. All is ever want is a boyfriend like I don't even need friends and shit, just a guy, or at least be attractive enough for a guy to look back at me when I pass by.
Whenever someone asks me like an adult "do you have a boyfriend"
I have to say no. BECAUSE GUYS DONT FUCKING LIKE ME AND IM NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR ONE APPARENTLY.
Because I'm not a normal fucking girl who is capable of attracting a relationship.
I fucking hate myself what's wrong with me
Most Helpful Guy
Your biggest problem is your ATTITIDE! Get it together girl, you are stronger and smarter than this. Don't just go against yourself because you would be surprised how much our brains can really do to us. When you think the way you are right now, nothing will EVER get better. You have got to refresh your mind, have faith and determination and be POSITIVE in life because it's just to short to waste time dealing with stress and depression that you will regret years later from now. Everybody has their own taste and these things happen naturally. Once again, naturally they are not forced.
The thing is, in my opinion, at your age/in highschool-none of these relationships are even close to being real and it's all really just BS. If it makes you feel any better, I'm a very good looking guy as many have told me but I have not once dated a girl, and no I'm not gay. I am going to college next year and know that people will be more mature there, less like high schoolers with these retarded groups like the nerds the cool ones etc. there I will find my first girl to date. The thing is, I choose not to stress out about this because I have thought the way you are right now but I immediately recognized that It was not healthy for my body to be stressed out like that and I wasn't going to improve with such a negative attitude. If no guy seems to want to go out with you now just wait and let things happen naturally. The best you can do for yourself is to enjoy life, hangout with friends, and with that you could potentially run into some guy that could be your first boyfriend. if you could just do one thing for me- stop being so mean to yourself and your body as it is not good for you now nor later down the road. I believe you are capable of standing back up and getting it together, the only question is "are you?" ... if you want to ask anything or got some concerns I'd be more than happy to help you. Best of luck 😎3
Most Helpful Girl
As a 28 year old female I can say one of the most frustrating things is reading about the struggles of my younger peers (who'd I'd like to help). Mainly because I know they dont want someone older than them telling them what's what, or a clichéd "things will getter" better line.
But I hope you can let the words of those trying to help you really sink in. Give us a chance to try to help you.
First I will say while it can be tempting to not eat much in an attempt to slim down (yes i did this in high school too) its not healthy - and I know, you know, its not healthy. Here's one thing you may not know: when you stop eating, your metabolism stops which prevents you from losing weight. Eating low calories meals frequently speeds up your metabolism allowing you to loose weight. - I thought I'd address this with you since it seems to be a focal point in your post. However, i really hope that you decide to take care of your body for YOU, not others.
Secondly, they other posters are right - even if it sounds condensending, clichéd... etc
High school can be a miserable time, with a very skewered perception of reality. It may seem like everyone around you in high school, has their sh*t together, etc ~ they don't. And your school is only a very small representation of 16 year olds around the world. It sounds like you feel pressured to be at the same stage slas the other 16years old you see that are dating and whatever else. But why? Why try to be like somebody (s) else (s)? When you can be you. You can be unique. The one thing i noticed thats really missing from your post is YOUR goals, your wants, your dreams. If you figure out what these are and go after them I believe you will find happiness.
I believe part of the problem here is that you are not happy because you are trying to mold yourself in to what you *think* other people want from you. Yes, its cliché but happiness comes from with in.
An example: let's say rap music is really popular where you live. But you like rock music. You can listen to rap all you like but only one will make you happy. - i hope that makes sense I'm not the best with analogies.
Lastly when it comes to dating - there really is no point in dating in high school. The majority of guys (sorry guys) only want sex. And the majority of couples never past graduation. Those that have dated in high school tend to regret it.
Additionally there are sooooo many people that spend there teens and twentys forever single.1