Guys, is what my friends are saying true or should I believe him?

I was seeing a guy who I fell in love with. I could tell he deeply cared about me too. We were basically in a relationship but with out the title (met all his friends, would stay at his house 3-4x a week, cooked together, went on date nights and he told his family about me etc). I asked him whether he saw a future with me and he said definitely that he was at the age where he wouldn't waste time with anyone he didn't see a future with. Basically last year he went through a terrible breakup. After 4 years his ex stole some of his money and changed the locks to find out she was with another guy. I met him at the end of last year and basically he's said I mean so much to him but isn't ready to commit because he hasn't gotten over everything yet from his past. He was extremely upset and said he doesn't want to lose me but I said we aren't on the same page because I do want more.
People keep telling me if he really liked me he would have been with me regardless. When I look at him I see the pain when he says he's not ready just yet. I don't know what to believe? Is what my friends are saying true?
Yes you're friends are right
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No they aren't. Sometimes people aren't ready even if they do really care
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Guys, is what my friends are saying true or should I believe him?
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