There is this man at work that seems to have a crush on me and I am crushing on him, too. He is very shy but comes over to my desk to talk to me and we Skype from time to time. I know for a fact he was married not too long ago. But he is not wearing a ring and someone at work told me she had heard he was divorced. These two things don't convince me though and I just want to know what I am dealing with here: a flirty married guy or a shy just divorced man. I'm not about being a mistress so if he is married, that's done with. But I really like him so I want to find out. How do I do this casually?