So... Been with my girlfriend for a year and a half. That kind of love that's... amazing. Once in a lifetime, she's the one. But for the past few months all we've done is fight. Argue, bicker, really mean, out of nowhere fights. and the time that we've been okay just keeps getting shorter and shorter. We're fighting right now... after literally only two good days. I don't even know about what anymore... I told her I need space to figure this out but truthfully I don't know if it's going to happen... I need help. Some advice anything to how to approach this and fix this... I love her so much... But if this fighting doesn't ever stop... its no way to love. So if anyone could offer some clarity... it'd be much appreciated...
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The first thing you need to do is figure out why you're fighting. Do you have any idea what's causing you both to argue? Has one of you recently been under a lot of stress? Anything at all that has changed since you started arguing?
After that you need to sit her down and talk to her about it. I'm guessing she's a similar age? Tell her how much you love her. Ask her if she's happy with arguing like this and that you want to support her with anything that she's going through. Or if you're having issues then you need to tell her what's wrong, that you need her to be there for you.
Most of the time arguments like these are due to outside influences. However, if you both find issues within your relationship then this is the area you need to work on. Agree to be completely neutral and ask her to do the same. Say what you're unhappy with, let her do the same and no react in a negative way. Difficult i know x But it will work.
Relationships after the year mark require hard work, commitment and above all else, communication.1