I got the biggest smile on my face right now lol
I love this!!! 😭 So sweet. I had a big smile while reading this lol. And interestingly Halloween was the first time me and the guy held hands and really had some nice time to ourselves, such a special holiday haha. I hope he kisses me soon because I'm such a shy mess 🙈
Awww!! Yeah Halloween is my favorite holiday! It's okay I am shy and awkward.
Same haha!! I'm glad things worked out regardless ☺️👌🏼
So fun to read, thanks for sharing! And who cares where you met, what matters is that you met 🙃 congrats on 9 months 💖
You're welcome ❤️
Lol that's great! Oh man, I hated having braces 😳 Thanks for sharing!
Oh wow. It's similar to me because I also have anxiety, have never had a real boyfriend before and I've liked this guy for a really long time now. You were brave though haha.. I feel like I would almost die if I did that! This sounds terrible but I think I'll have some drinks and then kiss him on the cheek lol, I wouldn't have the crazy nerves then. But, he's quite a bit taller than me, so sadly I don't think I could simply reach up for a cute cheek kiss without making it look like a real kiss. I over think everything 😞
It really is similar :P My boyfriend's quite a bit taller than me too, he's 6'0 and I'm 5'2, so there's a whole ten inches of distance between us. Giving him cheek kisses does take quite a lot of standing on my tiptoes and using his shoulders to drag myself up there, I will admit.
Aww haha, yeah, I think it'll take a lot in every way for me to do this 😂
So cute! I feel like I would accidentally hit his face with mine, I'm so damn clumsy 😞
LMAO sorry but that was funny that's a good memory right there
Lmfao 😂 I'm glad it was a good memory! What did she say after you kissed her?
She was just surprised and liked it, I don't remember what she said though lmaoBut I was saying you hitting your boyfriend in the head with yours is a good memory
Ohhh ok, lmao shh I'm so embarrassing lmao!
Really? Out of choice or just not into it?
it is a combo, my christian beliefs in waiting for the right time plus there hasn't been really a time that felt right to do it. To be honest I have also been waiting until I am more stable financially to actively pursue dating. But it is also tough to meet up with actual people, I am going to try meetup. com soon to find some social circles but Kissing may not happen until I get into a good relationship. But for your question, It's about giving your significant other positive signals for the kiss, it's about bringing enough awkwardness to lead him into it. here's something from a newspaperwww.huffingtonpost.com/.../...guy-t_b_5598665.html
Thanks for sharing! I had fun reading that article, good insight ☺️ Similarly, I haven't had sex or a boyfriend yet, not due to religious beliefs but just personally I believe in waiting for the one who will be worth it. Good luck in meeting up with your future girl, it'll be happening sooner or later!
thank you and good going on waiting for the right guy to have sex. I've been told that once it happens it is a very personal moment and will bond you with that person so it is a really good choice to wait plus it is a really good form of birth control lol
Hahahha so true, best birth control out there 👌🏼 What I have done so far is have guys (who I never liked) kiss me (because they would make me feel guilty if I didn't let them) and it always felt bad, I never enjoyed it. I've never kissed someone that I wanted to 😞 Sex is way more intimate though so I especially wouldn't want to sleep with just anyone you know? That, and I'm terrified of potentially getting pregnant by some random person haha, noooo thank you.
your welcome have a great holiday
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That sounds adorable haha, I often joke about wrestling with him and how I'll win (I'd lose badly lol) so maybe something similar can happen. I feel like a kiss is the perfect ice breaker you know? There's so much tension when we're holding hands etc. I hate it 😪 Thank you for sharing! ❤️
Well we were really good friends before we became anymore. But I suggest breaking the whole touchy barrier if even just hold hands creates awkward tension. Try cuddling or hugging him or playing with his hair or simple things like that and then I promise you there's going to be a moment when you kiss.
Thanks :) Sadly, so far each time we've hung out it's always been someplace where I can't easily cuddle him (like the cinema, a concert, a restaurant etc.) so I'm waiting until we're at a chill party or house or something. And yeah, there is really heavy tension because I know in my heart he wants to hug/kiss me as well but he doesn't want to do it all too soon or freak me out, meanwhile I'm just shy as hell around him unfortunately. I've never had sex or a boyfriend before so I guess I'm extra nervous.. I feel if I had a drink or shot I'd be able to kiss him without all the nerves getting in the way 😐
Noooooooo that would definitely not change the situation. It would just make your heart beat faster or make you sloppy and unable to think 100% clearly. It's always better when both of you are fully there
Really? I always seem to feel relaxed and easygoing when I'm tipsy, the nervousness goes away. But yeah I really wouldn't want to be sloppy or anything! If I do it sober, I'm afraid of messing up like, I don't know what I would do after the kiss? I feel like an idiot, I'm just very inexperienced 😞
It's okay! I am too! I think that you are planning to much and thinking way too much about it. I don't think it will Ben awkward afterwords bcause you'll still be in the moment. Just go with the flow
Aww thanks, you're right. I feel better now :) Whatever will happen will be chill. Thanks again!
Ahhhh, soo cute! I'm really glad it all worked out ❤️ I've never had a kiss yet which wasn't forced on me, meaning basically having guys kiss me that I didn't want to kiss me. So I'm anxious about this because I really like him a lot :)
take your time don't rush and you will be fine
I know, it's just I haven't done much with guys so I still blush and things haha ^^
I know how you feel I'm in my first serious relationship and am quite clueless as well
Thanks for understanding :) All the best!
thanks you too
I game too lmao that is so clever 👌🏼 I'd do that if I wasn't so shy. Maybe in the future when I know him better lmao
I don't think it's weird, everyone has their thing :) do you remember the first time you kissed his cheeks? I might do that because it's cute, but I don't want it to be awkward!
Why so long
That same night I think lol
@That1tallguy at first his mom wanted us to wait because he was so young when we started dating and then we decided to just wait till marriage then we decided we didn't want to but he was scared
@That1tallguy but to be honest I wouldn't have it any other way
How old were you?
@That1tallguy when we first kissed? 19 (he had just turned 18)
Damn you are one bold girl 😂 Was he surprised/confused or did he kiss you back? What'd he say after lmao
He kissed me back, short at first but he came back for more ;). He just said that he didn't believe me that I never made out before, back then it was true.
So cool! Thanks for sharing :) Hopefully I can be that brave too some time haha..
You will! When the moment feels right, kissibg somebody doesn't seem wrong anymore. Good luck!
Oh my gosh haha! I'm a nervous wreck honestly and I hope something strange doesn't happen (on my behalf). Was everything still cool after that? :)
Haha yeah, he was cool and thought it was pretty cute too :) Although it something he'll sometimes joke about now :P Anyway, we ended up making out properly later so no harm done.Don't be too nervous, I think he'll enjoy it no matter what you do :) It's just something to break the barrier.
Wow you said the words right out of my mind haha, to break the barrier is exactly what I need. There's so much built up tension.. last time he held my hand on our walk back from the little date/hangout and I just, wanted to kiss him lmao but goodness I'm nervous. I'm really glad to know things worked out for you despite not the greatest first kiss with him!
Aw, you guys sound so cute holding hands :3 But that's also a pretty good opportunity to make a move. Next time you guys are walking somewhere and holding hands, just take him somewhere private and ask for a kiss :) Because I bet he probably wants to kiss you too but also doesn't know how to go about it.
Thanks! I was going to die due to feeling so happy and nervous haha, I couldn't sleep all night (I'm so lame lol). That does sound like good timing, but there's a little problem. That night, I was very cold and he was like "wait you're cold?" and then he held my hand. Normally, I don't think he would because he's a bit shy. He was blushing a bit while we were walking haha. I'm not so sure that opportunity will come again so easily, damn it 😰 And yeah, pretty much every time he's dropped me back home he was looking at me like he wanted to kiss me, but I'm not going to have that happen in front of my parents' living room window lol. Sighhhhh
Haha, you two are so adorable :3Sounds like just like an excuse to hold your hand. So he would be fine if you just take his hand next time you guys are walking back. Just find somewhere a little private when you hangout instead, you can say you just want somewhere private to talk.I'm rooting for you both! So good luck :)
Haha thank you 😇 I thought so too, and yeah that sounds ideal but honestly I don't think I have the guts to do that :3 It's embarrassing that I'm such a nervous mess around guys I like. I'm thinking I should have a drink next time we hang out haha..
Nice nice, this gave me an idea. He did invite me to come over to watch a movie but I was sick that day. I guess I'll have to wait for the chance lol damn 😒 by the way was your kiss random and quick or did it lead to anything? I haven't had sex yet or anything related to that so I'm extra nervous haha..
Totally random. Wasn't expecting anything.And no. I was a virgin at the time, so it was strictly just making out. Other things happened later lmao
Ohh I see, yeah I think this could work. There's a lot of tension between him and I at the moment and it sucks so I want a good ice breaker 😑 Thanks and sorry for the awkward question lmao
its cool!he kissed me on the cheek first (probably to see if it was ok with me) but I just went in for the make out once I knew he wanted to kiss me too haha
Awwe. I'm pretty sure that despite my nervousness, if he tried to kiss me I would go in for it too ☺️ I'm so lame lol I couldn't sleep all night after he held my hand on a walk hahaha
Was this all in a day or slowly over time?
In a few hours. On our first date :)
Ohh okay awesome :) Did you start hugging him randomly or what happened? After my crush and I held hands on a walk, we just got into the car and he dropped me back home. I don't know how to squeeze in something special at times haha 😞
Nah I'm good
Interesting lol, I was previously thinking about having drinks before as well. Was it still a meaningful kiss or were you both just drunk?
It wound up a pretty intense (if very strange) night.
Hmm, thanks for sharing, I'm not sure if I'd want to be drinking then. I'm really nervous about potentially strange moments!
Not strange in a bad way. Just a very unusual first date...
Oh a first date? Wow haha that's really fast. Strange in a good way then?
Yes, but like a weird dream.
Aww, I think that's how I am too, I'm soo shy (with guys anyway). But he's a little shy too so it's even worse for me 🙈
Yeah, I'm shy around guys! My crush is shy too and we are going to start going to dates soon. Ah!
If it helps, I started going out with my crush who is also a little shy, and the first few dates were a bit nerve wracking for me but it always got better each time. Started with a very awkward cinema movie where no one talked (kill me haha) and recently ended up with us holding hands on a late night walk a little while ago. If I can do it (a nervous mess) then trust me you'll be fine haha
lol I'm a nervous mess and we are going out to eat and on a hike on our first date. He is a shy extrovert and so am I. I just get nervous with someone I like!
I completely understand! After he held hands with me, I literally couldn't sleep all night because my heart was racing lmao... I'm also extroverted but I get so anxious around a crush like you do. Which is also why this is frustrating, because I really want to be my social self around him but I get so nervous and probably come off as a little embarrassing 😳
Same! I'm even embarrassing over text! Oh my, just thinking about him holding my hand gets me anxious! I have never had a boyfriend or ever been on a date. But thank you so much for sharing your advice/info!
LOL same. I think so hard about what to say before sending him any, oh man. And right? It's a great feeling though, I was too happy, if that makes sense. And don't worry, I've never had a boyfriend or even sex haha, new friends are always shocked at parties lmao. I think it'll make things super interesting soon (: Can't wait for you to start dating, it's nerve wracking but you'll feel so good! And of course ☺️
Me either! And how did you first date end if you don't mind me asking... Was it awkward? How can I not make it awkward?
Thankfully not! After the movie ended I told him it was good and asked what he thought etc., so it gave us something to talk about. I suggest having 2-3 fun topics in mind before a first date to avoid awkward silences ("oh man I'd love to travel to xx some day.." "so what do you usually do on weekends?" "I just remembered something funny haha") and it also helps you get to know them much better. I did that and when we got back to his car from the cinema, we spent around 20 minutes just talking and talking! If you ever feel the conversation is dying or you're nervous, add in tiny questions about things he says ("wait really?" "How come!"). It keeps the convo fun and cute. Every time you keep a few things in mind to discuss before a date, awkward times can't happen :)
And luckily, after some time and dating, the nervousness does go away and conversations become natural ☺️
Thanks for sharing Canadian pal! 😇✨
No problem :)
Same here, besides this current crush of mine. Thanks for sharing :)