Your comments are always so insightful, honest and wise. It's refreshing to read.
I totally agree!
Wow thank you for your compliment! That's the highlight of my day~ ^_^
I'm an American and I love the United States. But in the past few decades about half the people here have become afflicted with some kind of ailment that makes them feel they have to say things that are what we call "politically correct." It makes conversations about almost any topic predictable, unidimensional and boring. I've found that people from some countries -- particularly some Asian countries including and especially China -- seem much more likely to be able to "keep it real" -- which is another American slang expression meaning saying what you really feel even if someone else finds it offensive, being in touch with your honest feelings and expressing them genuinely withoug worrying about who it might offend. I can't get over how ironic it is that here in a country that claims to value free speech as one of its highest values, we squander that right with political correctness that makes us in actuality less free with our speech than in other places that we consider oppressive.
Well, that's interesting. I always think that Asian people especially Chinese are not good at critical thinking and innovative thoughts. We are kinda too obedient and conservative in most cases. So Tbh I do envy you Americans sometimes. Haha! And your words are always insightful and attractive. ^_^
Yes, what you said is part of some American's stereotypical view of Asians and Chinese people. Many Americans do indeed view Chinese people and very good at following but not so good at leading. Many Americans do view Chinese people as not very innovative or creative. This is a common stereotypical view. Of course intelligent Americans realize this is a generalization and of course not true for all Chinese people. There are differences in our cultures. I think Chinese culture (generally) values obedience, submissiveness to authority and conformity to societal norms. American culture, on the other hand values independence, challenging authority and nonconformity. So I think some of the stereotypical traits come from these differing cultural values. Americans like to question everything. We don't just accept things without asking questions. Two of my cousins married Chinese women. So I have some Chinese family. I LOVE Chinese culture, art and history! :)
My sister is American, but she speaks fluent Mandarin. That is rare, not many Americans can speak Chinese. She has two college degrees in Chinese.
Yes I agree~ Individualism vs. Collectivism.. It's all about culture. Haha!
It's very impressive that your sister can speak fluent Chinese! Has she ever been to China? So glad you have some Chinese family and you love Chinese culture~ ^_^
Yes, my sister has been to China. Also my parents have been there more than once. My grandparents have also visited China more than once too. :) I enjoy talking to you. Would you like to speak in private messages?
Sure! I'd love to~ ^_^
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If they are both consenting adults then it is not abuse. It may be creepy/weird to some people but in no way is it abuse.
"more interesting dates"Ha, ha.. Well, I have told one young college girl I was dating, "I have to go to London next month, do you want to go?" It was a rhetorical question.
Wow, you said it :>
Lol. Don't be so sure. My mother who's remarried now always dates older men. They were idiots. But granted her husband is 15 years older than her. Just a match made. I wouldn't judge by age!
age doesn't mean mature. and no such thing as fuck boys... just guys being guys. I mean if you wanna call em fuck boys, just because they didn't do as you would like, them im entitled to call the females I've been meeting as Dumb Ass Bitches... cuz they didn't do what i would have liked lol
@TdieselerLMAO! That's funny bro!
@MementoMori_ just keeping it real with these females lol
@Tdieseler i eant in term of settling down and not just wanting to sleep around. Most guys my age are looking for something casual.
guys around your age SHOULD be doing just that. People that rush into something as serious as marriage usually end up falling out of it eventually. And these girls out here today, yea, they run around talking bout settle down settle down... fuck that, those morons dont wanna settle down, they want that wedding, that dress, that ring. Thats ALL they want. so settling down is 80% that wedding day, and 20% whatever happens after. You know how many girls I've told to shut up talking about settling down and marriage, yet can't even hold a boyfriend...Like marriage is this magical thing that just makes everything go away.Guys take marriage more seriously than girls, THAT is why we take so long to propose... women think after marriage, their hustle is over. Men KNOW that after marriage, its time to step the game up. Marriage isn't the end, its the beginning of Lvl 2. If you can't lock a boyfriend, or still saying things like "no good men" or "fuckboys", probably shouldn't be considering marriage.
@Tdieseler you are completely generalizing there. Some women might be like that but I'm def not. I want marriage for a husband and a family. Not for the glam of it... hell idc if I even have a wedding. Im mainly excited for the family part. Fuckboys literally means guys who just want to fuck. Which is exactly what I meant so yeah, I will say it.
Yes, i understand i am generalizing. And it seems like whenever i say that to someone who has the real mindset of settling down, its because they always seem to be running away from something. in your case, its "fuck boys" which i already know what that means. Again, at your age, you should be experimenting, getting to know yourself and what you want eventually when marriage comes along. thats why i say men know more about marriage, those "fuck boys" by doing what they do now... will find out what kind of girl they want to be with and then settle. and at that point, the girls that jumped into marriage, mostly will be having problems or going through divorce because they didn't take the TIME to clarify what they want first. Again, marriage does not make everything ok, its for people who are ready to DO MORE. so if you can't even handle "fuck boys" how will you survive settling?
@Tdieseler I've been dating a few years now. I know what I want and don't want. I haven't settled because I haven't found the person I want to be with yet. Don't tell me I'm not ready for something tho when you know nothing about me
dont gotta take it personal, i obviously dont know you. Just only taking what you are saying and matching it up to theories, trends and people's past experiences.If you have been dating though... doesn't that mean you have found a few people you want? or are you just a fuck girl too. Those guys you call "fuck boys" are guys you wanted and because it didn't "work", and you happened to have sex with them, they are now labelled fuck boys. lol... women, y'all find it so easy to label everything AFTER the fact. My favorite is when a relationship fails and the woman says "he only wanted me for sex"... forgetting that when that happened, it was consensual and she wanted sex too... ugh.. u women irk me to my soul lol. yes, i know im generalizing. ok now to bring back something i said... honest question.. no offense butyou said you have been dating, doesn't that mean that you HAVE found someone (S) you have wanted to be with? or are you just a fuck girl who just wanted to use them for sex..
@Tdieseler 1) i dont have sex2) fuck boys are different in that their only motive is sex. Don't confuse the 2.3) When i say I'm dating I have been out with ~10 guys in the past year for a few dates but didn't click with them. We didn't have enough in common and i didn't feel comfortable around them
ahhh... got it got it... you might wanna work on number one though...
@Tdieseler lol why?
Did you just ask me why? haven't you heard the 90-10 theory in relationships...Guys are 90% sex and 10% all that other touchy feely emotional crap that women likeGirls are 90% all that touchy feely emotional crap and 10% sexdoesn't apply to everyone, because everyone has their own percentage but basically thats it.. and the 10% is usually something either side can do without. Girls can stay fine in a relationship without sex, n guys can stay without the emotional shit. Why do you think when sex sucks or the girl won't do it, the guy shut down and becomes distant. Thats the reason why i said work on that, when the sex is good, you can lock down any dude. and that 10% will be every time. Men dont like listening to you women talk a lot, but a guy will pay absolute attention to a woman that he knows when its bed time, she'll blow his mind... and other things. I've tested both theories... i was amazed how little fucks I gave about the bad sex girl or how i treated her lol
Also dont forget, when cheating occurs, its usually sexual. why because it was either bad or not given at all. Under normal circumstances, no man will cheat on someone who is good in bed. thats why i always call "for marriage" virgins morons... how the hell are you supposed to be good something you have never tried. The only morons bigger than them are the moron who put a ring on it. (unless they are virgins too)
@Puppylove94They're almost always fuckboys. There's almost never an intellectual connection so these men are almost always in it for the young ass.
@JohnDoe3000 agreed lol
looks like auto-correct fucked you over again. I fixed it for youhttps://i.imgur.com/QSK8jXn.png
@Yumix Lmfaoo how'd you edit that?