ok, so I'm 13 (grade8) which may seem young but I've been seeing this girl named Rose and we've dated for a couple weeks now. But she cuts herself sometimes and she seems very depressed sometimes and I really want to help her but I don't know what to do.
Most Helpful Girl
Sounds harsh - I know.
Hear me out.
You're 13. You will be a much, much, MUCH happier adult and be better prepared for romantic relationships if you cut her loose (no pun intended).
You have a couple weeks invested in her. That's nothing. You're 13. I'm marrying the guy I was with when I was 14. I'm not discounting your relationship due to your age. It is 100% possible to have a mature lasting relationship at that age.
This is not that relationship. Leave her. Your number one priority is you. Never forget that. If you try to help her, she will drag you down with her. You do not have the resources or the ability to help her. She will sink you into a depression and then you'll both be there being depressed.
Your number one has to be you. I would tell you the same thing if you were 28 or 32 or 64... any age. Her depression is something she has to deal with on her own. You trying to help will do the exact opposite. It will only make you depressed and no one wants that.3
Most Helpful Guy
Tell her parents, if her cuts are an actual issue then she needs to get professional help. At her age the things she experiences shouldn't cause the need for that, not unless there is something -seriously- wrong. Take this to an adult or professional.
My friends have cut and done things in the past, at first they were angry at me for telling parents/professionals. Even angrier that I took their cutting tools away. But now they consider me a great friend, are thankful. One even claims I saved his life by stepping in before he did something worse.0
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