I absolutely love the person Im with but I don't think I'm in love with them anymore. It feels like we're friends instead of a couple. I feel lost because I don't want to loss my boyfriend but there's another person who I'm becoming really close with and I'm starting to fall for him. I'm so lost and don't know what to do. Please help me and don't be nasty because I'm not cheating.
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I'm wondering if you are judging something new and exciting against something that has become a bit routine and stale. Did you question your feelings for your boyfriend before this new guy came along, or have you only questioned them SINCE he came along? Sometimes people can be hooked by the excitement of something new and then it causes them to look at their own relationship.
My concern is that you might be tempted to chase a rainbow rather than to work out why your current relationship isn't ideal and to try and make it better. The answer isn't always to leave, sometimes it is for both of you to renew your efforts.
You say that you don't want to lose your boyfriend but is that about actual love or is it about familiarity? Letting go of something consistent and stable for something new and unknown is a bit like stepping off dry land on to a boat. The boat might take you to new and more fruitful lands. Or it might sink. It can take some courage to let go of stability. However, if the love isn't there anymore then that land is barren. There is nothing there for you. You have to have the courage of your convictions if that's the case.0