So me and this guy, we have amazing chemistry, we've been "dating" for two months, and by that I mean he calls me on the phone everyday, we go out for coffee, or just listen to some music in the car... just that. The thing is, he told me several times that he is not ready for a relationship, he has been on his own for a really long time and says that, due to past experiences/traumas, he is not ready to start a relationship.
What are your opinions on this? I respect him but I like him and I can't stop thinking about him. I am trying to just be friends.
Do you think he is playing me? That if he liked me enough, if I was enough, he would not be having this reaction?
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He must like you if he's calling you every day and wanting to hang out with you. the problem is not in that. Emotionally unavailable doesn't mean the guy won't like you or want to be around you. It means he can't fall in love. He can still feel attached, want to have sex and even want to move in with you, but he won't give is heart to you. if he's EU due to trauma, he may want to love you, but his past hurt won't allow it. it isn't something you can do anything about. He has to either get up and get professional help to get past this issue or actively find a way to move on from his past on his own. Neither is easy to do. Especially the former. Take it from someone who is also in love with a EU guy. Stop chasing him. Don't stop dating other guys and if you have too much time on your hands to where all you can do is torture yourself over him, find a new hobby or hang out more with other friends. Don't give him so much of your time. All you'll get from him is pain. I am still friends with my EU guy. I am there for him if he needs me ( he's still going through a divorce), but I won't chase him anymore and i won't give him so much of my time. I was getting to where I couldn't stand not hearing from him every day and not seeing him almost as often. i was ignoring other friends and i stopped doing other things i love. I finally realized it isn't worth my mental and physical health. It sucks, but you'll get to the point where you'll want/need more and he won't be able to give it. Who knows? Maybe if your time and companionship becomes harder to get, he'll realize he has to do something. If not, then you know you're saving yourself from a even bigger heart break down the road.0