Is it wrong to ask a guy to be straight up?

Question

If a guy is shying away from a conversation or a girl, it's safe to assume he's not interested right? But one of my biggest pet peeves is guys who shy away. I'd rather have a guy be a dick and straight up then a guy be a coward and shy away. Would it be wrong of me to ask this guy I'm talking to what the deal is if I already knew the answer? I know I already know the answer, but the point is I want him to be straight up otherwise I feel like shit about myself. Would it be wrong to ask a guy how he feels about you if you already knew the answer?

Answer 1

Danny_dan92 | 1.3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Not at all, go for it. I sometimes shy away from girls I find really attractive, you have nothing to lose to ask him what he sees in you. But my question is what is he doing that makes you say he is shy?

Apple-mango

+1 y
I'm not saying he's shying away, like, what I mean is he seemed disinterested.
Apple-mango

+1 y
Is it wrong to ask a guy who seems like he isn't interested if he's still into you? I know I probably already know the answer, but it's just a pet peeve when people aren't straight up. I lose respect for them so I often ask them what the deal is? Is it wrong to do that?
Danny_dan92

+1 y
Go for it, I once was talking to a girl where at first she came off interested and then started drifting away. I was confused and so I asked her what the deal was and she told me "she wasn't ready for a relationship but thinks I'm a good guy..." blah blah blah ask him if he likes you or not so that you can have the peace of mind to know the truth.
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Apple-mango

+1 y
Thank you (:
Danny_dan92

+1 y
Sure!
Danny_dan92

+1 y
You're gonna benefit from this because he is gonna see you as a confident woman. You have no idea how many girls are too scared to be straight forward with guys. So when he sees this he might do a complete 180 and be all into you because he then will know you are into him
Apple-mango

+1 y
Mayb, but he just read my text message like 10 min. Ago and he hasn't replied. Is that a sign that he's trying to avoid it? I know he texts me even when he's busy.
Danny_dan92

+1 y
Is it iMessage?
Apple-mango

+1 y
Yeah
Danny_dan92

+1 y
Give it time, he could be busy. I would say give him 1-2 hours to respond. And if he doesn't he is a coward, move on to the next guy Darling. You don't need to be given the run around by a fuck boy
Apple-mango

+1 y
Thank you so much! This is going to seem weird, but would you be down to be friends? You seem like a really cool dude and honestly that advice helped me a lot!
Danny_dan92

+1 y
Sure
Apple-mango

+1 y
I'm sorry if it seems weird but you literally made me feel better about the situation
Danny_dan92

+1 y
That's what this app is for right?

Answer 2

Apple-mango

I'm not saying he's shying away, like, what I mean is he seemed disinterested.

Answer 3

Apple-mango

Is it wrong to ask a guy who seems like he isn't interested if he's still into you? I know I probably already know the answer, but it's just a pet peeve when people aren't straight up. I lose respect for them so I often ask them what the deal is? Is it wrong to do that?

Answer 4

Danny_dan92

Go for it, I once was talking to a girl where at first she came off interested and then started drifting away. I was confused and so I asked her what the deal was and she told me "she wasn't ready for a relationship but thinks I'm a good guy..." blah blah blah ask him if he likes you or not so that you can have the peace of mind to know the truth.

Answer 5

Apple-mango

Thank you (:

Answer 6

Danny_dan92

Sure!

Answer 7

Danny_dan92

You're gonna benefit from this because he is gonna see you as a confident woman. You have no idea how many girls are too scared to be straight forward with guys. So when he sees this he might do a complete 180 and be all into you because he then will know you are into him

Answer 8

Apple-mango

Mayb, but he just read my text message like 10 min. Ago and he hasn't replied. Is that a sign that he's trying to avoid it? I know he texts me even when he's busy.

Answer 9

Danny_dan92

Is it iMessage?

Answer 10

Apple-mango

Yeah

Answer 11

Danny_dan92

Give it time, he could be busy. I would say give him 1-2 hours to respond. And if he doesn't he is a coward, move on to the next guy Darling. You don't need to be given the run around by a fuck boy

Answer 12

Apple-mango

Thank you so much! This is going to seem weird, but would you be down to be friends? You seem like a really cool dude and honestly that advice helped me a lot!