How do I fix trust issues?

every girl iv dated has been very mentally abusive and 2 of the longest time girlfriends have cheated on me. one even brought back clymidia for me to try out. wtf.
anyway, I seem to now find girls who are independent and strong minded which I love but I struggle to trust them and come across as needy or controlling when all I'm trying to do is secure myself. obviously their independence and strong minds prevail and they leave me. how do it I get past this? iv explained my actions and thoughts and why, doesn't help. perhaps I need to find someone more needy themselves?
How do I fix trust issues?
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