and it went fine, but not physical contact, no hug, no kiss. I paid for it. In the end she suggested that we should meet again sometime. We talked on phone couple of time and had another date. This time she split the check. No hug no kiss..no physical contact. But in the end she said "It was good hanging out again with you. I am available next Sunday, may be we should do something". Now I am confused. Is she just looking for friend? Should I call her to schedule a date on Sunday or I should just let her go. I am not interested in being just friends.
For second date she initially suggested to come and play cards with her at her place, but for some reason it got canceled and we ended up having a low key dinner.
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huh...I'd say splitting the check, and trying to schedule things with friends are both obvious signs that she is trying to either
1)put you in the "friend" category, or
2)slow things down because she is not sure yet that she wants to date you, but she's also isn't sure that she doesn't, and she's just trying to buy time
...before you decide to let her go, you should at least tell her to her face that you're interested in more than friends, and if she's not, then bye. Don't just drift off. Because she might just be unused to a guy offering to pay dinner, and paying her special attention. She might just be uncomfortable being in the spotlight like that, and she is trying to move your relationship back into her comfort zone. She might truly be interested in more than friends, but unsure how to graciously recieve your obvious interest without feeling pressured to a commitment she isn't yet sure if she wants. I mean, its only been 2 dates.
My suggestion: Don't follow her lead. If she says she'll pay half, don't let her. Just don't. Make a joke, or be serious, whatever is more natural to you. If she says she'd like to meet with her friends, tell her you'd actually like to spend one-on-one time with her. She's a big girl; if she's just trying to be safe, make sure you do things in a public area. Also, do something other than dinner next. Do something unique and interesting. Join a community service project together, garden, go on a walk around a flower market in a rich part of town, they'll have all sorts of cool flowering plants for sale...