So, I have been hanging out with a guy since the beginning of December. Mostly at his place having dinner and talking, staff party we danced together mostly and he drove me home, he took me to the movies and paid. After a few weeks we got intimate. We discussed not being intimate with others and always being honest with each other. He remembers how I like my coffee, asks questions about my life, openly shared about him. We work together and car pool, so I know his work friends. He changed his work schedule so when he works nights it's will coincide with my nights too. But he says he doesn't want to date or be in a relationship... he doesn't want to get too serious. We are both newly divorced. Isn't friends with benefits supposed to be non exclusive and non intimate in terms of getting too close and personal? So what is this? Is this what dating is now days... undefined, no titles and no clue? Just go with the flow and see? He also texts almost every day, but then won't for a few days.
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The whole dating or whatever you call it scene is real mess these days. No one wants to commit, everyone rides this stupid friends with benefits angle so they can have the sex without the commitment of a relationship. Seems like a cheap cop-out, the whole idea is just stupid, people being afraid and comforting themselves with the friends with benefits label when any intelligent person knows that it is a relationship... it's just labeled different so they can sleep easier.1