So, I'm 19 (nearly 20) years old, in college, and I've never had a boyfriend. Usually it doesn't bother me because I stay confident and am really focused on my own things anyway, but lately I have been starting to feel lonely.
I just don't get it. Girls who don't give a care about anything have people who want to date them. Me, I pour every bit of my heart into everything. I'm a really good D1 athlete, I make straight A's, I care about people and I'm the one that all of my friends confide in and seek out for advice. Also, I've been told all of my life that I am very attractive.
However, I only ever get one of two things. Either guys who tell me how hot I am and try to get into my pants, but don't like that I don't party and drink, or guys who are respectful and like my personality but just hook up with other girls. Either way, I'm always "too high maintenance".
Is it me? Or do guys actually like girls who don't care so much about everything?
Most Helpful Guy
Sadly today's dating world is a hook up culture. My lady friend told me girls today put on this "I'm strong, I don't need a man, I just need to get laid" front and hook up with guys then hope it turns into a relationship. Because everyone fears feelings these days.
Also these guys could be putting you on layaway. They express attraction to you and hope that some day down the road when they are done partying they can scoop you up. I say don't fall into that.
I do know who you are, but the way your describe yourself, you are a catch. You're mature for your age, and your peers are very immature. I suggest going for an older guy, not like 38 more like 26-30. Because as a man in that age group dating is officially dumpster diving, girls are like 300lbs, have 4 kids from 4 different guys, unemployed etc etc and you would be the diamond in someones rough if you went for a man ages 26-300
Most Helpful Girl
They probably chase them more because they are down for one night stands, while you are not.0