there are a lot of reasons why i do love him. I think there will be almost zero percent of chance for me to see another guy who's as good as him.
of course he has very many flaws but i love all of them and he is just literally kind of male virsion of myself. I can't even imagine another guy can understand me as much as he does.
but there's just one problem i really can't not overcome.
He is a nerd. A huge nerd. He's the best best best nerd i have ever seen.
He loves superheroes, video games and StarWars which I don't find interesting.
We've been seeing a year and i am just getting tired of watching/hearing about those things more and more.
I tried to be polite and understanding so he thinks i like them...
i know i should tell him the truth that I don't like them as much as he thinks but i am afraid of hurting him. They are literally everything for him 😂
sometimes i think he likes me because he can share nerdy stuffs with me :( becayse he talks about them a lot. 1-2 hours if I didn't say i couldn't even understand what he was talking about lol...
what do i do? Why can't he just stop expecting me a nerd like him? Seriously i am not a type of person who can be a nerd. I am extremely extrovert and enjoy other things that i can do with moving my body. Reading comics and stuck in the movie theater are getting boring more and more. I enjoyed it at the very first time because i really wanted to be with him and wanted to make him happy.
Now he seems very happy and i am not :( how can i make him less talk about those things without hurting him?
Most Helpful Guy
You need to talk to him, tell him that you care about him but that you are different. You support him in his likes but you have your own likes / dislikes. You don't have to tell him that you hate his stuff but that it isn't as interesting to you as it is to him.
He will still talk about it with you as it is something he loves. Just like you talk about things you love, even if he might not like them as much as you.
Relationships are about compromises. My wife isn't into the same things I am, some things she is, others not. It goes the same way for me, there are some of the things she likes that I don't care for and some that I do. We make it work though.
Focus on what you have in common. You can each do the things you love at the same time, if he wants to do what he loves at a particular time you can then do what you want. But make sure you do things together that you both like.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
My husband is a bit like this. He is soccer mad, absolutely loves it so wants to give me a play by play if every manU game, every A-league game, every one of his weekend matches, every one of his Tuesday night matches and then tell me what happened at training.
I just don't care. I'm not interested in it, and really - heard it once heard it all.
I used to pretend to love it all and listen in rapture but I just got frustrated like you are now. So I explained I love his passion, his commitment and watching him light up when he talks about it but that I just can't for hours everyday. Now he has 15min to debrief and rant afterwards and then I'm out. Over the years he's gotten amazingly well at timing it down to the second and in all honesty it's worked for him too, he doesn't stay angry for as long if the result wasn't good as he knows I won't keep talking about it.
He has his friends to talk shop - he gets bored when I rave on about a book I read for too long or how some fabric I bought doesn't suit etc. we respect and enjoy each other's passions but we had to make our own common ground and not just be talked at.
This goes for both of our hobbies - tech, videogames, the gym, reading, sewing, cooking and bitching about friends.
Works for us anyway 😊1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE