Most Helpful Guy
"For the guys who just want casual sex" = nearly all men. It's not that no man wants a relationship - many do - but men's sexual interests are NOT (even remotely!) limited to the women they want to be in a relationship with. In fact, generally, for every woman a man meets who he'd be interested in having a relationship, he meets 10-20 women that he wants only casual sex with.
This has always been true - women desire relationships and emotional connections; sex is a much lower priority because women can get sex whenever they want (as long as they aren't particularly picky about the guy they have it with) - but relationships have value because they're harder to get.
Guys want SEX - it's men's first priority and primary motivation for everything else - but the vast majority of guys can't get sex whenever they want - they have to work for it, and even when they do, many still can't get it. Yet men evolved not just to desire sex, but to desire it from MANY women - and DIFFERENT women (men desire VARIATION in their sexual partners). Most guys want a relationship at some point, but even then, their sexual interest is NOT limited to the woman he is in a relationship in, and he has to constantly keep his instinct to pursue other women (for sex).
But, not only has this always been a struggle between the sexes, feminism has made things much worse when it comes to relationships. Relationships come at a very high cost for a man - his time, his attention, his money, his sexual freedom, his significant legal and financial risks, etc. Feminism has greatly increased those risks with easy, no-fault divorces that heavily favor women, especially when kids are involved. Plus, men who married used to get a number of benefits beyond just sex: most wives were housewives who took care of the man and the children while the man worked outside of the home. He might work hard, but he would be taken care of when he got home.
Post-feminism, most of those benefits for the man no longer exist, so men's benefits have been reduced, and his liabilities have increased. That means serious relationships and especially marriage have become a bad business deal for men. If you wrote marriage up as a business contract, with one person being assigned the male benefits and liabilities and the other the female, but you didn't use "marriage" or "gender", it would be blatantly obvious how unbalanced the contract would be today.7
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Most Helpful Girl
The way I see it is if a guy is going to be honest and tell the girl that all he wants is casual sex and no relationship and she agrees to go ahead with it, he isn't doing anything wrong. If he says he wants a relationship or acts like he does but really he just wants casual sex... then that is wrong.13
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