Most Helpful Guy
"hey man, just so you know, I like you, let's hang out more. Oh and also people are talking smack about me just so you know, so if there's anything you're wondering, just ask"1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Literally tell him that. Say Drew was trying to get a rise out of you and said xxxxx and if the guy feels that way about any of it you'd like to clear it up.
Bit of a warning sign though, if he's been talking about you in the workplace.
And listen to him about his ex wife and kids - if things are still a bit strained and they haven't sorted out their custody and new family dynamic then it can be ridiculously hard to begin a relationship. Listen to what he tells you, and respect it if those are his real reasons for not wanting to be with you1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE