I'm in the processing of dieting and what not since the new year, dropped 10 lbs so far, I kinda worry I'll just act the same if I do slim down to my target and it won't improve my prospects.
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Some of them still feel insecure even after they lose the weight.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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Shy and timid is something you have to work on separately but I did a physical transformation that was slightly different.
I was very skinny and ended up bulking up and gaining some mass, filling up my shirts better. That definitely went beyond a placebo effect since I had some girls wanting to feel my arms and chest and complimenting me on my body. They definitely would not have been interested in doing that when I was a skinny and awkward-looking teenager.
The shyness and timidness I got over mostly because the first couple of girls actually came onto me first and I accepted their offer. Probably the physical transformation helped there. After I got a few girlfriends, I started to no longer fixate and fall in love with the first pretty girl who smiled at me. As a result it became much easier to just behave normally and comfortably around attractive girls over time since I didn't consider it that big of a deal whether or not they would accept my offer to go out.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE