Why do people assume just because you're attractive means you'll have an easier time dating?

I'm constantly told I'm attractive and people are shocked that I'm having trouble finding a boyfriend. That irks me to constantly hear because what does physical appearance have to do finding someone compatible?

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  • There are studies done which states:

    1. Attractive people have much better social lives --> More chance to meet members of opposite sex--> More chance to potential date through networking.

    2. Attractive people get hired for jobs faster than less attractive people ---> Easier time to network and get dates via your job.

    With these 2 effects, it can be seen than attractive people have a very big advantage in dating. This doesn't even factor in the psychological aspect ingrain by most people where attractive people, negative qualities are often glossed over while their positive qualities are often extrapolated with many people giving them plenty of chances before they get fed up with them. The opposite occurs for ugly people.

    Put this together and attractive people have a much easier time winning people over.

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  • When a person looks at someone of the opposite sex that they have just met, it's true that they look at physical appearance first. After all, that's what they see first. If someone knows that the person is physically attractive, then they are more interested to know about your personality. And if your personality is compatible with theirs, then you could become a pair. It's harsh, but true. Many girls who are not as physically attractive don't get as many opportunities to get to know guys since the guys are just not physically attracted to them. And to have a long-lasting relationship, I believe that personality compatibility and similar values is crucial, however having some kind of physical attraction to your partner is vital for the healthiness of the relationship as well.

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What Guys Said 57

  • Because being beautiful makes men throw themselves at you.
    And that basically means that you're single because:

    a) You're picky about men
    b) You want Mr perfect soul mate like the movies

    In borh cases most people thonk you're demanding too much.

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  • When you're attractive (and don't just take other girls word for it (especially friends)) people will definitely notice you. They try to please you. Treat you differently. They may even talk about it.

    If no guy approaches, it's just cause they're afraid or shy, or think you're taken, or that you must have some problem (who doesn't?), otherwise you wouldn't be single.

    Again, it doesn't mean they don't notice you. But all this attractiveness can change with the attitude you present yourself to the public, the way you talk, dress, walk, etc. Basically, your manners. Sometimes we just get a wrong vibe from someone. Sometimes the person doesn't leave us at ease, or isn't very welcoming (a smile every now and then doesn't hurt). Unfortunately, we have also learnt that normal smiles don't mean much.

    Anyway, don't be passive and wait, if you see something you like, do your best to be noticed. If you just wait around, you'll just get whatever comes at you. Lay your net. But some bait on it ;)

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  • Because attractive people have it easier, but if they just wait and see, nothing will happen. That's life. If you put a bit of effort, you can find a bf/gf easily.

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  • Well derr... people desire beautiful people. All a beautiful woman has to do is sit and wait to either get her inbox flooded thousands of times a day and gets approached by the same many men.

    For a woman to have an easy dating life, all she needs to do is be average. For a man he either has to have model looks including tall height or compensate for status and a huge bank account.

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  • Because most people define "having trouble dating" as "having problems attracting someone to date me".

    An attractive person complaining about dating when he/she is constantly attracting ppl's interest,

    comes off as the wealthy complaining about running out of things to buy.

    Completely a #FirstWorldProblem to most

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  • Because it's a fact it does,

    If you're attractive, you literally just have to find someone who's personality you like

    If you're not attractive, you literally have to find someone who will be able to date you being ugly AND like your personality.

    peope don't "assume" prettier people have it easier, it's just obvious fact they have have it easier.

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  • Really? You can even ask this?
    Because the pretty people of the world, especially women, have everything handed to them. You have your choice of guys, guys are willing to bend over backward to do everything for you, etc...
    sorry, no sympathy from me at all...

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  • If you're attractive, you're desireable by all males. But it's not that simple. I enjoy buying a car, but a car doesn't have to like me back. Getting a girlfriend is far more complicated. Just because your standards are what they are doesn't mean anything. Go with what you want, and what you feel would be the best for you. No need to worry about anyone else's opinion of your life. It's up to you, so live it!

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    • Not ALL males. It depends on if you're their type. And attractive people attract the majority

  • Being good looking makes it easier to have people approach you or find you attractive. That doesn't mean you'll attract people who want to date, they might only want sex.

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  • People wanna be with someone they're attracted to. You're apparently attractive so it would make sense that lots of guys would wanna be with you, which may be true. But as any average guy knows, there's a mile and a half of dangerous ground we gotta trek between wanting to be with an attractive girl and actually being with one. However its generally assumed that at least one guy has successfully crossed from one end to the other.

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  • If you have Beauty you bring in a higher class of men for your dates. You just have to choose the right one. Beauty gets you very very far

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    • "If you have Beauty you bring in a higher class of men for your dates. "
      Very subjective because all I'm getting is fuckboys and desperate men.

    • I don't know you. You have to be a classy girl to go along with the looks and dress the part.

  • well you´ll have an easier time finding dates for sure. in theory you could therefore find dates faster and have them more frequently, which rises your chances of finding someone compatible... of course finding somebody compatible is hard and being attractive doesn´t rise your chances. but many tries rise your chances.

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  • i think they just think hot girls can have their pick of whoever they want but thats only true for sex not for someone they really like just because ur attractive doesn't mean ur compatible with a lot of people

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  • It's not an assumption, it's a fact... assuming everything else like personality and status are equal or fairly close to.

    Attractive people have trouble choosing a boyfriend/girlfriend not finding one.

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  • A simple prababilisict concept. You will attract more people, and you will have an easier time finding someone amongst all the of them.
    On contrast I only have attracted two women for example. I didn't like one if them and I livef way too far from the other.

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  • see men are blind to ur inner person they dont wanna know u and the problem with gay is they just dont care😂but what people dont understand that u date a guy who u hit it oof with... where the understanding of another person is better... and i think u r looking for that instead of sex

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  • Because it's a fact that your attractiveness will affect your dating success or failure, not in every single case, but it does play a part in a vast percentage of them.

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  • I don't think being attractive would make dating easier. I think it's still hard to find someone no more if your attractive or not. I guess people just assume that attractive people shouldn't have problems meeting someone.

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  • Being attractive can also mean more broken hearts and pain. Definitely doesn't mean things are "easier."

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  • Attractive = Attract more people = More people, more choices

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What Girls Said 15

  • I always assumed the opposite. It makes you a target. And I've been yelled at by peole for things that weren't my fault because of how I look.

    My childhood was kind of sad but I raised to very good younger siblings. I also lost my dad the love of my life as a child. Looks have nothing to do with it. I did t think I was pretty and so I was able to work. But men made bad advances towards me.

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  • You do of course realise that there's an awful lot more needed than just being attractive.

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  • You have more options to choose from bc attractive people attract more people. That's just how the world works.

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  • Because you get a disproportionate amount of attention so you have a higher chance of getting relationship prospects, even if most of them just want sex.

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  • I dont necessarly get called attractive a lot but people do seem to get shocked that I haven't had sex nor have had a boyfriend before. That is sometimes followed by telling me I got high standards, im too picky or I get accused of being naive about sex (basically the only reason im waiting is because im waiting for Prince perfect and amazing sex). I Just haven't met someone im compatible with and people can't seem to understand that

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  • That should be the least of your worries. You've got the upper hand on most people. Focus on your personality and laser point on guys worth your time.

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  • Because they do. It is what it is. More attractive people get better jobs, can attract the attention of men/women easier than the average looking person,

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  • Being attractive means you have an advantage... your looks put you ahead. Because who wouldn't want to date a beautiful girl.

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  • I feel you haha
    It can have the opposite effect.
    People assume you should be taken or you re not interested

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  • Im not having any luck with dating as well, I've been told Im beautiful, attractive, etc... My dating life is almost nonexistent.

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  • I feel that it's easier to attract someone but it's easier to attract the wrong people

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  • they think it is the only thing one need

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  • i guess its how it is

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  • Because they're idiots

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  • Girl!!! Exactly!!!

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