How many men aren't interested I single moms? I had no idea that so many men would never be with a single mom until my last question. So who's down to date/marry a single mom and who is not?
Most Helpful Guy
Before you get all pissed, let me explain why generally it's a bad idea to date a divorced single mom (from a standpoint of critically thinking men) and why it nearly guarantees that it'll be a bad long-term relations:
1.) It means a man will always come 2nd. Child's opinion will always be more important to a woman, which can easily sabotage upbringing. If a man will go a bit rough on a child (a simple single spank, like any other dad would do given a proper reason), she's going to defend the child, thus sabotage man's authority in the eyes of a kid that will learn that as soon shit hits the fan, he can hide behind mom's back. This will severely piss man off and will lead to arguments between the couple; alternatively, if a man won't give a fuck about raising woman's kid, *SHE* will get pissed instead. In both cases kid won't respect a man.
2.) A man in this case doesn't create a family -- he's just joining it, hence he won't ever feel truly "in his tribe". This may lead to a depression as he ages and later to alcohol or other addiction.
3.) A kid won't ever acknowledge man as a dad, unless he's really, really small and won't remember anything. Over time a man will start to see a kid as a cash dumpster that doesn't give anything in return whatsoever (not even simple child's love).
4.) If they'll together have a 2nd kid later on, a man will switch all his attention to a newborn, which will piss off first child and that will lead to huge fights.
5.) Suddenly her ex-husband can show up and deliver shittons of legal problems and/or troll a man, which may have different (yet all negative) consequences.
6.) Generally, there's a good reason why a woman is a single mom (unless she's a widow): she's either so bad at creating a family and keeping the harmony a man dumped her, or is outright dumb by being impregnated by some one-night-stand or casual hookup, or is poorly developed/educated if she cannot tell apart a reliable man to have a kid together with from just some dude who has no interest in being a dad, yet still gets pregnant.
7.) A kid is a constant walking reminder of other men in woman's life for a husband.
For the reasons above I wouldn't date a single mom, as those relations will end up nowhere.1
Most Helpful Girl
A lot of men dont want that baggage. For me personally... I won't date a man who has never had children. Now at my age... I want their kids to be grown and out of the house. When I was 48 I dated a man who was 50. He had grown kids. But I found out he had a 5 year old. He had fling with a much younger woman after his divorce. Well needless to say that didn't last long. I am finished raising kids.0